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Acceptance Is a Place to Begin
I am where I am is not a demand to like pain, give up, or stay where you are. It is a way to stop requiring this moment to be different before you can offer yourself care.
The pressure of I must not be here creates an inner tug-of-war. Some energy goes into wanting change while another part fights the reality of what is happening now. Making even a little peace with where you are can gather those resources and make new choices easier to see.
Acceptance Can Include Protest
If I am where I am feels soothing, use it. If it feels false or infuriating, include that truth:
- I am where I am, and I don’t want to be here.
- Part of me is okay, and part of me is not okay.
- I can recognize where I am without deciding to remain here.
The aim is not forced happiness. It is less struggle with yourself and a more resourceful starting place.
Tapping: I Am Where I Am
Top of the Head: I am where I am.
Eyebrow: I am where I am.
Side of the Eye: I am where I am.
Under the Eye: I am where I am.
Under the Nose: I am where I am.
Chin: I am where I am, where I am.
Collarbone: I am where I am.
Under the Arm: And I’m not staying here, I’m getting better. I am where I
am, and that’s okay.
Take a slow breath.
Notice whether the statement carries a little more peace. Even a small shift is meaningful. From there you can ask: How can I make the best of where I am now?
Browse the complete course
Getting Started
Pain Relief Coaching
Limiting Beliefs
- LB00 · Limiting Beliefs and Pain Relief – Introduction
- LB01 · Nothing Has Worked for Me Before
- LB02 · Nothing Will Work for Me
- LB03 · I’m a Tough Case
- LB04 · I Don’t Deserve to Get Well
- LB05 · I Am Unforgivable
- LB06 · I Deserve to be Punished
- LB07 · My Condition Is Incurable, So Why Bother Trying to Get Better?
- LB08 · It’s My Fault
- LB09 · I Don’t Expect to Get Well
- LB10 · I Don’t Understand… WHY ME?
- LB11 · I’m Defective
- LB12 · Something is Wrong with Me
- LB13 · I’m Destined to Have a Lousy Life
- LB14 · I Can’t Take Care of Myself
- LB15 · I Can’t Do Anything Right
- LB16 · I Always Sabotage Myself
- LB17 · People My Age Have Problems Like This
- LB18 · I’ll Probably Be Miserable Forever
- LB19 · I Can’t Afford What I Need to Get Well
- LB20 · No One Understands What I’m Going Through
- LB21 · I’m Not Worthy of Attention
- LB22 · I Feel Unappreciated
- LB23 · I Can’t Have This Pain/Condition and Be Happy
- LB24 · My Pain is Beyond My Control
- LB25 · I’m Not In Control of My Feelings
- LB26 · My Symptoms Can’t Be Helped
- LB27 · It’s Not Fair!
- LB28 · I’m Taking Too Long To Heal
- LB29 · I’m Too Embarrassed to Talk About It
- LB30 · I Can’t Trust My Body to Heal
- LB31 · I Need to be Fixed!
Emotional States
- ES00 · Emotional States – Introduction
- ES01 · I’m Totally Stressed Out
- ES02 · I Am So Tired & Exhausted
- ES03 · I Feel Overwhelmed
- ES04 · I Feel Hopeless & Want to Give Up
- ES05 · I Feel Anxious All the Time
- ES06 · I’m So Impatient
- ES07 · I Feel Fearful & Scared
- ES08 · I Have So Much Self-Hatred
- ES09 · I’m Ashamed of Myself
- ES10 · I Feel So Guilty
- ES11 · I’m Always So Irritable
- ES12 · I’m Very Lonely
- ES13 · I Feel Betrayed By My Body
- ES14 · I Feel Grief & Sadness
- ES15 · I Feel Embarrassed
- ES16 · They Abandoned Me
- ES17 · I Hate Being Dependent on Others
- ES18 · I Feel Rejected
- ES19 · I Feel Angry
- ES20 · I’m So Resentful
- ES21 · I Feel So Unsupported & Unappreciated
- ES22 · I’m Very Unforgiving
- ES23 · I Feel Trapped By My Body’s Diagnosis
- ES24 · I Want To Withdraw
- ES25 · I Feel Unsafe
- ES26 · I Feel Despair & So Depressed
- ES27 · I Feel Hurt
- ES28 · I Have These Internal Conflicts
- ES29 · I Feel Apprehensive About the Future
- ES30 · I Feel So Confused & Not Sure What To Do
- ES31 · I Feel Skeptical
