50% of everything you do… isn’t as good as the other half. The first time I heard this, it was like a punch in the gut. Oh no, it’s true. Half of everything I do isn’t any good. Arrgh! And then I had to smile because…
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...“Worried” and “angry” are emotional postures. So are peevish, cynical, critical, lonely, unmotivated, ignored, friendless, untrusting, not-good-enough, unappreciated, and unloved. Let’s also include overwhelmed, frustrated, impatient, and stressed. If a person demonstrates such a state of being on a consistent basis, it is an emotional posture. It has become how the person stands and relates to the world. EFT and our group coaching program can help you establish new, self-empowered emotional postures.
...Are you needing an uplift? A simple uplift is the type of thing that is available, I believe, to anyone anywhere. Simple says that it doesn’t have to be Big. It doesn’t have to be complicated. All the conditions don’t have to be perfect. And it can still be savored and give us a pleasurable boost.
...When you’re distressed, can you shift to neutral with confidence and ease? I didn’t realize for a long time that this is a SKILL… a skill that can be cultivated and become one of the most beautiful gifts we can give to ourselves and those around us. People talk about wanting to be Happy. They …
A typical affirmation is stated in the present tense as if what you want is already yours. For example, “I am wonderful!” Say that to yourself. “I am wonderful!” Notice what your head says right after the affirmation. What your head says AFTER the affirmation is, indeed, the REAL affirmation.
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Thriving Now – Community Center – Latest topics
- Rough Neighbourhood!image843×952 187 KB 1 post - 1 participant Read full topic
- Seventeen Years Underground....And Then Sunlight!I found this on FB and thought it was so beautifully written…(although infused with some anthropomorphism) the words and sentiments really got inside me… image1501×960 305 KB Joy Yacoub-Weissflog "It is the end of the line for this lovely lady. She spent 17 years buried deep in the dark safety of the earth doing nothing […]
- Moral ImaginationSee the book It’s healing for someone to be with us, to empathize, to understand. Many times that evokes change. With coaching and co-creating we-spaces, “getting” one another feels core… even if our empathy is never the full experience the other person is having. Also core, for me, is to shift the status quo when […]
- Free EFT Tapping Guide1 post - 1 participant Read full topic
- Minor InconvenienceI really like this person’s cartoons. I find them on FB. Interestingly I’m always a bit conflicted as to whether the cartoonist is assigning the roles to the heart and brain correctly…in every cartoon I switch the roles around in my imagination and the cartoon seems equally valid…not sure what to make of that…lol image1440×1436 […]
- Relief NOW – 3 Simple Keys2 posts - 2 participants Read full topic
- Holding Space for One AnotherHow many times have we been told we are too sensitive, or get over it? How many times have we smiled and said we were ok when we really weren’t? I like this quote by Jeff Brown. I would rather say my truth and be authentic, how about you? Jeff Brown2048×1536 303 KB 3 posts […]
- You SHOULDN'T be treated that way, but what if that's a SHOULD as well?How to co-exist with other people’s criticisms when they don’t mean any harm? I had a chat with my guitar tutor on WhatsApp today, and I told him that I liked ESP guitars and would want to get one someday when I’m ready to invest. But I got triggered when he said, eww ESP are […]
- DJ Subconscious Spinning Your Greatest Hitsimage750×799 73.2 KB 4 posts - 2 participants Read full topic
- Dr. Gabor Mate - Attachment Is EverythingDr. Gabor Mate is a Canadian doctor who is well know for his ‘street level’ work with addictions and trauma. He’s become a mentor for me over the years via YouTube videos and interviews. I watched this video once again a couple days ago…it’s good for me to refresh some basic concepts/knowledge that I can […]
- Neutralizing Social Anxiety: How to Be Calm and Confident When Awkwardly Re-EmergingReal Skills Workshop - Community Event RS 2021-06-10 Social Anxiety-1200x6301200×630 164 KB ] Neutralizing Social Anxiety: How to Be Calm and Confident When Awkwardly Re-Emerging Real Skills Workshop: Be Calm and Confident Hosts: Rick Wilkes (@Rick) and Cathy Vartuli (@Cathy) Recorded Thu June 10, 2021 Replay is below Get your Real Skills Workshop 1-Year Pass […]
- Listening PartnershipsRick: We start with the assumption of definitely listening, comfort – calm, confident presence with what’s alive for the other person. Co-regulation. And the solutions part might be an offer, once co-regulation is present. Would it be helpful for you to explore options together, or do you feel complete? This!!! This is precisely why having […]
- Weight Issues + CravingsLast night’s 2.5 hour workshop by Carol Look and Peta Stapleton is worth finding time for if weight issues or cravings/binging behaviors of any kind are a part of your emotional world. View the session here. (Available until Monday.) If you know me, you know I really do not care at all about your weight […]
- Oh Ye of (Some) FaithOh ye of little faith… When I hear that in my head, there’s a bit of a spiritual “accusation” to it. Like, how could I not have faith when so much has been guided and provided in times of need and times of plenty? Backstory: We rent. It’s a lovely home. Magical in how it […]
- Behavior Patrolimage1417×1417 475 KB Behavior “Children don’t know how to ask for what they don’t know they need. Their asking comes in the form of behavior.” Bonnie Harris When we learn to see our children’s behavior as communication, as their way of expressing a need, we come off ‘Behavior Patrol’ and work instead for ‘Connection Reflection’. […]
- I Have A Dream!image843×843 82.9 KB 1 post - 1 participant Read full topic
- Make sure she doesn't pee or poop!I was on a sound check with a client and someone forgot to hit mute. We all heard her say clear as day, “make sure she doesn’t pee or poop.” I happened to be the one talking right before that and I had a moment where I thought, are we acknowledging that this happened? In […]
- Forest BathingI thought of you @Rick when I came across this article in a health magazine. Forest bathing…what a luscious and beautiful sensory picture that paints for me. You’ve brought the idea of ‘sauntering’ to your ‘Morning Mile’ in the woods…and ‘forest bathing’ is another perceptual position although I’m sure you are already doing it in […]
- Don't Ever Get Too BigThis is a call(ing) I will always answer… image722×640 82.5 KB 3 posts - 3 participants Read full topic
- Processing too much through ___On the circle session last night, one of the members said they were processing too much tension through their body. Ahhh… interesting. This morning during my quiet reflection time, I realized I was processing too much tension through words and thoughts and not ENOUGH through my body! So… Today’s Morning Mile was with music and […]