Listen or Follow Along
Check In: I’m Not In Control of My Feelings
Say aloud:
I’m Not In Control of My Feelings
Notice how true it feels in your body on a scale from 0 to 10. Zero means the statement has no felt charge for you, and 10 means it feels completely true.
Starting intensity: _____
Tapping 1: I’m Not In Control of My Feelings
Side of the Hand: Even though I’m not in control of my feelings… I accept myself and all of my feelings.
Even though I cannot accept that I am not in control of my feelings… I deeply and completely accept myself anyway.
Even though I’m not in control of my feelings… I’m open to the possibility of developing that skill.
Top of the Head: This lack of control over my feelings.
Eyebrow: This lack of control…
Side of the Eye: My feelings are out of my control.
Under the Eye: I’m pretty certain I can’t control my feelings.
Under the Nose: I don’t seem to be in control of my feelings.
Chin: I have not found a way to control my feelings.
Collarbone: I’d really like to be able to control my feelings.
Under the Arm: I’m so ready to have some control over my feelings.
Take a slow breath.
Tapping 2: I’m Not In Control of My Feelings
Side of the Hand: Even though I can’t control my feelings… I accept myself.
Even though I can’t control my feelings… I deeply and profoundly love and respect all of me.
Even though it pains me that I can’t control my feelings… I’m open to feeling surprisingly calm and confident… that I can develop some control over my feelings.
Top of the Head: I can’t control my feelings.
Eyebrow: Can I?
Side of the Eye: Can I make myself sad?
Under the Eye: Can I make myself angry?
Under the Nose: Can I make myself feel overwhelmed?
Chin: I’m pretty sure I can make myself feel scared!
Collarbone: How do I do that?
Under the Arm: How do I focus my thoughts to make me feel a negative emotion?
Top of the Head: Maybe I do have some control after all…
Eyebrow: What if I changed my inner channel?
Side of the Eye: What if I looked at another inner picture?
Under the Eye: What if I remember something a bit more pleasing to me?
Under the Nose: Perhaps I could choose a thought that brings a bit of relief…
Chin: …And allowed myself another thought that brings just a bit of relief.
Collarbone: That would be different… that would be some control!
Under the Arm: I’m open to focusing my mind in ways that bring me relief… even if just for a few precious seconds.
Take a slow breath.
Check Again: I’m Not In Control of My Feelings
Say I’m Not In Control of My Feelings again. Notice how true it feels now.
Current intensity: _____
If another pass feels right, repeat the practice while staying attentive to what you notice in your body.
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Getting Started
Pain Relief Coaching
Limiting Beliefs
- LB00 · Limiting Beliefs and Pain Relief – Introduction
- LB01 · Nothing Has Worked for Me Before
- LB02 · Nothing Will Work for Me
- LB03 · I’m a Tough Case
- LB04 · I Don’t Deserve to Get Well
- LB05 · I Am Unforgivable
- LB06 · I Deserve to be Punished
- LB07 · My Condition Is Incurable, So Why Bother Trying to Get Better?
- LB08 · It’s My Fault
- LB09 · I Don’t Expect to Get Well
- LB10 · I Don’t Understand… WHY ME?
- LB11 · I’m Defective
- LB12 · Something is Wrong with Me
- LB13 · I’m Destined to Have a Lousy Life
- LB14 · I Can’t Take Care of Myself
- LB15 · I Can’t Do Anything Right
- LB16 · I Always Sabotage Myself
- LB17 · People My Age Have Problems Like This
- LB18 · I’ll Probably Be Miserable Forever
- LB19 · I Can’t Afford What I Need to Get Well
- LB20 · No One Understands What I’m Going Through
- LB21 · I’m Not Worthy of Attention
- LB22 · I Feel Unappreciated
- LB23 · I Can’t Have This Pain/Condition and Be Happy
- LB24 · My Pain is Beyond My Control
- LB25 · I’m Not In Control of My Feelings — current lesson
- LB26 · My Symptoms Can’t Be Helped
- LB27 · It’s Not Fair!
- LB28 · I’m Taking Too Long To Heal
- LB29 · I’m Too Embarrassed to Talk About It
- LB30 · I Can’t Trust My Body to Heal
- LB31 · I Need to be Fixed!
Emotional States
- ES00 · Emotional States – Introduction
- ES01 · I’m Totally Stressed Out
- ES02 · I Am So Tired & Exhausted
- ES03 · I Feel Overwhelmed
- ES04 · I Feel Hopeless & Want to Give Up
- ES05 · I Feel Anxious All the Time
- ES06 · I’m So Impatient
- ES07 · I Feel Fearful & Scared
- ES08 · I Have So Much Self-Hatred
- ES09 · I’m Ashamed of Myself
- ES10 · I Feel So Guilty
- ES11 · I’m Always So Irritable
- ES12 · I’m Very Lonely
- ES13 · I Feel Betrayed By My Body
- ES14 · I Feel Grief & Sadness
- ES15 · I Feel Embarrassed
- ES16 · They Abandoned Me
- ES17 · I Hate Being Dependent on Others
- ES18 · I Feel Rejected
- ES19 · I Feel Angry
- ES20 · I’m So Resentful
- ES21 · I Feel So Unsupported & Unappreciated
- ES22 · I’m Very Unforgiving
- ES23 · I Feel Trapped By My Body’s Diagnosis
- ES24 · I Want To Withdraw
- ES25 · I Feel Unsafe
- ES26 · I Feel Despair & So Depressed
- ES27 · I Feel Hurt
- ES28 · I Have These Internal Conflicts
- ES29 · I Feel Apprehensive About the Future
- ES30 · I Feel So Confused & Not Sure What To Do
- ES31 · I Feel Skeptical
