If we don't like ourselves, it's hard to let nice things in, no matter how much we may want them! I mean, who goes out of their way to help someone who isn’t likable?
Many of us were taught not to think too highly of ourselves (to say the least! Some people are downright HATEFUL towards themselves.) This isn’t a natural or healthy state of mind. But unresolved shame or constant criticism from “loved ones” can destroy our innate sense of self-worth.
When we value ourselves, it's natural to set good boundaries and care for our body and mind. Self-accepting people find it easier to allow themselves to relax and play. Healthy boundaries, self-care, relaxation, and play are all critical to our sense of abundance.
Does it feel safe to appreciate yourself? Who would judge you if you highly valued who you are and what you create in the world?
Was it safer back then to undervalue yourself so it didn't hurt so much when others were mean?
If you would like to open up to caring more about yourself in a balanced and mentally healthy way, ask yourself…
- Who taught you this?
- Where were you?
- When did you decide to reject yourself before others did?
Tapping on such specifics can transform the way you feel about yourself.
Side of the Hand (Karate Chop): Even though I don't really appreciate myself, or even like myself very much sometimes, I'm open to figuring out ways to release these old patterns.
Even though I don’t really like myself all that much, I do want to feel more loved… and maybe I can start by liking me a wee bit more.
Even though I never learned to like me, I'm open to noticing things I can appreciate about me now.
Top of the Head: I don't like myself very much.
Eyebrow: It doesn't feel natural to appreciate me…
Side of the Eye: or the things that I do.
Under the Eye: I haven't had much practice liking myself.
Under the Nose: What if I started?
Chin: Would that be safe?
Collarbone: Do I dare?
Under the Arm: I don't notice good things about me.
Top of the Head: But what if I could?
Eyebrow: What would happen if I accepted myself?
Side of the Eye: Would they judge me?
Under the Eye: It might be more trouble than it's worth.
Under the Nose: But I do want to feel loved and appreciated.
Chin: What if I could start by appreciating myself…
Collarbone: Just a little bit more than I did yesterday.
Under the Arm: It might be nice to feel better about myself.
Top of the Head: What could I appreciate about myself right now?
Eyebrow: I like that I do want to feel better.
Side of the Eye: And that I'm taking action right now.
Under the Eye: It does take courage to change.
Under the Nose: I do like that about myself.
Chin: I'm open to noticing more things to like about me.
Collarbone: I starting to appreciate myself…
Under the Arm: Right here… right now.
Top of the Head: And that definitely feels better.
Take a slow, deep breath.
What came up for you while you tapped? Did you remember times when you did things that you still feel ashamed of? Or reasons why you shouldn't like yourself? Perhaps a time when others rejected you?
Tap on those memories and beliefs so you can allow more abundance and self-acceptance in your life.
Did you notice things you liked about yourself? Wonderful! You can tap on the positive as well. It reinforces the good feelings. And it sends out a vibration of gratitude that the Universe responds to.
Just tap through the points as you list all the attributes of what you appreciate. You can tap on the side of the hand point if you like, or not. What feels right to you?
Feel free to change the words to fit what you notice about yourself.
Side of the Hand (Karate Chop):
I really like how strong my hands are.
Top of the Head: And my warm friendly smile.
Eyebrow: I like my laugh.
Side of the Eye: And how open I am to learning new things.
Under the Eye: I'm so glad I like to feel good.
Under the Nose: And that I'm tapping right now.
Chin: I'm proud that I never gave up.
Collarbone: And that I attracted tapping into my life.
Under the Arm: This feels like abundance!
Top of the Head: I like myself more each day.
You can do as many rounds as you like. Don’t worry if negative thoughts come up – just take them as more data and energies you can tap on next time. And keep going!