Many EFT Tapping scripts use the phrase, "Even though ____, I love and accept myself anyway."
What if you just can't say that?? What if you don't love and accept yourself?
Will Tapping still work for you?
First, know that a lot of people have that problem in the beginning. It gets easier as you tap away the reasons you feel unacceptable and unlovable.
That doesn't help if the words literally won't come out of your mouth now. Or if they feel bad or wrong to say.
There are several options. Give them a try and see which ones work for you.
(1) You don't have to believe the phrase to say it. Even if it feels 100% untrue, some part of you hopes it might be true someday and will hear it.
(2) You can soften it. "I deeply and completely accept myself" is not the only statement that will work. It's just one a lot of people use. You could try:
…I would like to deeply and completely love and accept myself.
…It would be nice if I could deeply and completely love and accept myself.
…I'm in the process of deeply and completely loving and accepting myself.
…I'm learning to deeply and completely love and accept myself.
(3) You can change the phrase entirely. See if one of these fits better (or make up one of your own):
…I'm starting to accept myself a little.
…It would be nice if I could love myself at least a teeny bit.
…I wonder what it would be like if this were different.
…I'm open to seeing this differently.
(4) You can tap on it.
Side of the Hand: Even though I can't say I deeply and completely love and accept myself because that would be a Big Lie, I am open to finding a way to care about myself.
Even though I will never be able to say I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I am open to liking myself a little.
Even though I don't know how I can love and accept myself, I appreciate that I'm doing my best to heal.
Top of the Head: I don't really like myself.
Eyebrow: It would be nice to change that.
Side of the Eye: I can't imagine loving myself…
Under the Eye: I am open to feeling better.
Under the Nose: I can't accept myself…
Chin: At least not yet.
Collarbone: I am doing my best to heal.
Under the Arm: That is something I can appreciate.
Top of the Head: I like that I might someday accept myself a wee bit more!
If the reasons why you believe you can never accept yourself start coming up, write them down so you can tap on them! Those are wonderful tapping subjects. Changing these beliefs will help you feel more deserving of abundance. Releasing limiting beliefs can help you find new possibilities for love, finances, and vitality.
Once you get comfortable with Tapping, you can try a version called Inner Tapping… where you imagine tapping on your younger selves to quickly clear old hurts. You can learn more about this approach here:
We also have some “refusal tapping” (NO! You Can't Make Me!) that can help you feel more free to choose how you feel: