Listen, Then Practice
Conformity Once Carried Real Safety
Families, schools, communities, and marketing teach standards for how a good, successful, attractive, or acceptable person should be. The Primitive Brain learns that standing out may threaten belonging.
Yet each person carries a combination of perspective, sensitivity, skill, desire, and expression that cannot be duplicated. Suppressing that uniqueness costs energy and makes it harder for resonant people to recognize one another.
Tapping: Let Difference Become a Contribution
Side of the Hand: Even though guilt and shame taught me to hide what is
different, I invite my Primitive Brain to consider that uniqueness can serve
both me and my tribe.
Top of the Head: We all bring different abilities.
Eyebrow: We bring different perspectives.
Side of the Eye: My Primitive Brain remembers when standing out was risky.
Under the Eye: The world and my available relationships are different now.
Under the Nose: A tribe of expressed people can be stronger.
Chin: I can find people who resonate without needing everyone to approve.
Collarbone: Old shame can become fuel for my power.
Under the Arm: I am open to my own unique expression.
Build Belonging Around What Is Real
Ask which quality, interest, style, or calling has been quieted to appear normal. Choose one modest way to express it where there is enough support.
Authenticity need not reject cooperation or feedback. It lets the Primitive Brain align with a direction that belongs to you rather than spending its power maintaining a facade.
Browse the complete course
Getting Started
Module 1 — Engaging the Primitive Brain
- 10-01 · Engaging the Primitive Brain
- 10-02 · It Won't Work For Me…
- 10-03 · I Hate My Primitive Brain
- 10-04 · Taking the Parking Brake Off
- 10-05 · Releasing the Internal Tug-o-War
- 10-06 · Forgiveness and Small Steps
- 10-07 · Guided Meditation #1 – 5 Senses
- 10-08 · Self-Reflection Homework – Module 1
- 10-09 · Q & A + Tapping Sessions – Module 1
Module 2 — Safety and the Primitive Brain
- 20-01 · Safety and the Primitive Brain
- 20-02 · The Prime Directive
- 20-03 · Outside-In Reprogramming
- 20-04 · I Don't Feel Safe
- 20-05 · I Don't Know What Safe Feels Like
- 20-06 · Is It Safe to Feel Safe?
- 20-07 · Notice the Safety Around You
- 20-08 · Guided Meditation #2 – Alert Level Adjustments
- 20-09 · Self-Reflection Homework – Module 2
- 20-10 · Q & A + Tapping Sessions – Module 2
Module 3 — Taking Steps
- 30-01 · Taking Steps
- 30-02 · Perfect Baby Steps
- 30-03 · Disappointment
- 30-04 · Fear of Loss
- 30-05 · Avoidance and Clarity
- 30-06 · Looking for the YES
- 30-07 · Training the Brain to WIN
- 30-08 · Who Will I Be?
- 30-09 · Guided Meditation #3 – Releasing Disappointment and Loss
- 30-10 · Self-Reflection Homework – Module 3
- 30-11 · Q & A + Tapping Sessions – Module 3
Module 4 — The Heavier Emotions
- 40-01 · The Heavier Emotions
- 40-02 · Why Look at Heavy Emotions?
- 40-03 · Letting Go: Feeling, Honoring, and Releasing
- 40-04 · Shame and Guilt
- 40-05 · Shame: I Feel So Wrong
- 40-06 · Anger: The Power Rising
- 40-07 · My Unique Self — current lesson
- 40-08 · Guided Meditation #4 – Sending Soothing
- 40-09 · Self-Reflection Homework – Module 4
- 40-10 · Q & A + Tapping Sessions – Module 4
Module 5 — Primitive Brain Reactions
- 50-01 · Primitive Brain Reactions
- 50-02 · Fight, Flight, Freeze
- 50-03 · Inner Tapping
- 50-04 · Specific Events
- 50-05 · Shock
- 50-06 · The Big Why
- 50-07 · Re-Empowering the Primitive Brain
- 50-08 · Guided Meditation #5 – Filling Your Tank
- 50-09 · Self-Reflection Homework – Module 5
- 50-10 · Q & A + Tapping Sessions – Module 5
Module 6 — Breaking Through and Moving Forward
- 60-01 · Breaking Through and Moving Forward
- 60-02 · Breaking Through the Frozen Fear
- 60-03 · Separating Your Emotions
- 60-04 · Continuing to Show Up
- 60-05 · Rejection and Acceptance
- 60-06 · Negative Thoughts
- 60-07 · Boundaries
- 60-08 · I Need to Be Perfect… Or Else
- 60-09 · Pulling It All Together
- 60-10 · Guided Meditation #6 – The Tree, the Beach, and the Fruit
- 60-11 · Self-Reflection Homework – Module 6
- 60-12 · Q & A + Tapping Sessions – Module 6
Bonuses for Your Primitive Brain
- 90-01 · Finding Your Why
- 90-02 · Keep Going with Confidence
- 90-03 · Creating a Clearing for New Beginnings
- 90-04 · When You Change Really Fast
- 90-05 · Deep, Restful Sleep – 5 Tapping Scripts
- 90-06 · Dealing With Other People’s Primitive Brains
- 90-07 · Blocks to Growing Your Business
- 90-08 · Self-Sabotage in Love & Relationships
- 90-09 · Self-Sabotage in Health & Well-Being
- 90-10 · Self-Sabotage in Money & Finances
- 90-11 · Financial Trauma Series
- 90-12 · EFT Master Carol Look on Procrastination and The Primitive Brain
- 90-13 · Sex & Relationships Expert Reid Mihalko on Relationships and The Primitive Brain
