Looking for the YES

Listen, Then Practice

A Triggered System Can Make Every Option Feel Wrong

When safety activation is high, choices can become foggy. Movement feels dangerous, staying still feels bad, and the desire to avoid disappointment overwhelms quieter signals.

Body yes and body no are capacities that can be practiced. They are not infallible commands or one sensation that decides everything.

Calibrate With Small Choices

Begin with low-stakes options. Imagine drinking water, tea, or something else. Notice expansion, leaning, warmth, settling, contraction, pulling away, or no clear response. Try the options in different orders. Ask what is more of a yes rather than demanding certainty.

Use the rest of your intelligence too: values, facts, consequences, heart, support, and timing. The Primitive Brain is one participant in the whole-body conversation.

Tapping: Make Room for a Believable Yes