Trauma Relief
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Replace the Vow You Made When You Were Hurt
In a moment of heartbreak, humiliation, abandonment, or betrayal, we may make a promise with enormous emotional force: I will never let anyone hurt me like that again. The promise is understandable. It may also be far broader than the wisdom we actually need. Distress Writes General Rules The primitive brain learns through association. If…
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Regret Is the Gap Between Your Values and Your Past
Regret often appears because we care. We can see the difference between how we wanted to behave and what we actually had the capacity, awareness, courage, or support to do. That gap can contain grief, guilt, shame, anger, and a fierce wish to go back. Punishing ourselves may seem like proof that our values are…
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Too Damaged to Get Well? Define Healing for This Season
“I am too damaged to get well” can feel like a factual conclusion. Often it is an exhausted protection against more hope, more effort, and one more disappointment. If getting well means erasing every effect of the past, never being triggered, restoring every capacity, or becoming the person we imagine we would have been, the…
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Trust in Layers Instead of All or Nothing
After betrayal or abuse, trust can feel like standing on a hot surface: every direction seems dangerous. We may let no one close, or place enormous trust in the first person who feels safe because loneliness has become unbearable. Trust works better as a series of specific, revisable choices. We do not have to decide…
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Release Old Pain Without Erasing What Mattered
Old pain can become a guardian of meaning. A part of us may believe that if grief softens, the person did not matter; if anger fades, the harm becomes acceptable; if an anniversary becomes peaceful, we have betrayed the past. Emotional freedom does not require forgetting. It changes how the memory lives in the body.…
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Coping Works… Is it really the best we can do?
Why is clearing trauma so important and so beneficial in this day and age? It can fundamentally change how we look at the world and how much possibility we can create!
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Tapping to Soothe Grief When A Parent Dies
I recently lost two parents. I knew it was coming but I didn’t expect it to hurt so much or the grief, sadness, and loneliness to last so long. I feel like nothing will ever be the same again. –Bobbi We don’t know what your beliefs are, so please take what feels right to you?…