Trauma Relief
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Mother Issues: Finding Calm Around Mother’s Day and More
We’ll look at some of the issues around Mother’s Day and help you tap through pain that might be in the way of having a better relationship with your mother (or at least feeling calm when you think of her).
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When Freaking Out Is the Only Exit Your System Trusts
Sometimes we do not become intense because we enjoy intensity. We become intense because quieter signals have repeatedly failed. We asked normally. We hinted. We explained. We waited. We tried to be reasonable. Nothing changed. Then we cried, shouted, collapsed, threatened to leave, or became physically overwhelmed—and suddenly everyone paid attention. The primitive brain learns…
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Why Self-Hate Can Feel Safer Than Self-Love
It seems obvious that loving ourselves should feel better than hating ourselves. Emotionally, that is not always true. Self-hate may be familiar. It may match the language of the family, religion, school, or relationship where we learned how belonging worked. Criticizing ourselves might have reduced attacks, signaled obedience, or kept us from appearing proud. Feeling…