If you’ve ever said yes when your body was screaming NO, you know what a toll it takes. Isn’t it time you developed a Powerful YES? A Confident YES?

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I find myself very scared of being like my mother. She was either very emotional in a scary way, or depressed and not available. Please help!

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What do ALL MEN have in common? Consider for a moment all the people who label themselves men. Tall short, beefy lean, playful serious, emotional stoic, flexible rigid, devoted wild, wise fool. Is there something that all men have at their core… that is an aspect you must deal with in any relationship or interaction

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TV and screen addiction has become a universal antidote to what ails a person. It doesn’t FIX the emotional pain; it distracts us from it. And it does so extremely well. The human brain goes into an extremely passive state when watching TV. We escape awareness. While we watch, we feel disconnected… disassociated from the world around us. We escape the PAIN.

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“If they say NO, they are rejecting me.” Does this feel true for you? If it does, I wouldn’t be surprised if you find it difficult to say NO to others. This came out during the tapping we did during our coaching session on Being Consent Savvy… part of the Knowing…Asking…Negotiating Program (available at the

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Loneliness is hard. It can “eat into you” and make you feel sad and hopeless. Whether you’re with a long term partner you don’t connect with deeply as you’d like… or you are single and don’t want to be anymore… if you feel lonely, you probably aren’t enjoying life nearly as much as you’d like to.

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Cathy and I are not typical… and so what? You are not typical, either. Have you ever rolled your eyes at some of the notions about “what it takes” to have awesome relationships? For me, I needed a way of seeing love as co-creating a life that is thriving, delicious, and an eco-system that nourishes

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My father drank to cope. His way of coping cut me and my brothers and sister off from the best parts of him. He coped with life’s many challenges using alcohol and food and inappropriate sex and purchases and power over people. He never was unable to have an emotionally vulnerable conversation with any of us eight kids.

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Guilt and shame producing phrases echo through many people’s childhood. Parents, teachers, grandparents, siblings, even complete strangers use those words, and others repeat them. Those phrases are used because they work… at least in the short run. They are great way to “cope” with and manage children. Here’s why…

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Do you get the feeling sometimes that there is something WRONG with you… that you’re somehow “bad” and don’t deserve what other people get? If so… It’s a SHAME. I remember in elementary school how confident and bold I was. I loved learning new facts, figures, names, and places. I was outspoken. I figured that

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