Do you compare yourself to others? Who doesn’t! We’re conditioned by glossy magazines, advertising, fashion models, sports, and high pressure workplaces to compare ourselves to others… and to figure out where we stand on the Ladder of Status. The trap comes when our tribal brain sees someone who is better at something we value than we are.
Do you get the feeling sometimes that there is something WRONG with you… that you’re somehow “bad” and don’t deserve what other people get? If so… It’s a SHAME. I remember in elementary school how confident and bold I was. I loved learning new facts, figures, names, and places. I was outspoken. I figured that if someone
The holidays are supposed to be full of laughter and joy, aren’t they? I remember the promise of a glittering tree, brightly wrapped packages, warm cookies baking. As children, we were willing to dream and enjoy the wonder-filled moments of the season. As adults, we’ve been conditioned to put ourselves last. To check off the list and
My therapist just told me he is no longer doing private sessions. I feel devastated and abandoned. I know there are other therapists, but I trusted him and now he’s not there anymore. I feel betrayed, like there’s no place else to go. –Kim Cathy answers: I do know how that feels, Kim. I’m sorry. Before I
What do ALL MEN have in common? Consider for a moment all the people who label themselves men. Tall short, beefy lean, playful serious, emotional stoic, flexible rigid, devoted wild, wise fool. Is there something that all men have at their core… that is an aspect you must deal with in any relationship or interaction
TV and screen addiction has become a universal antidote to what ails a person. It doesn’t FIX the emotional pain; it distracts us from it. And it does so extremely well. The human brain goes into an extremely passive state when watching TV. We escape awareness. While we watch, we feel disconnected… disassociated from the world around us. We escape the PAIN.
“If they say NO, they are rejecting me.” Does this feel true for you? If it does, I wouldn’t be surprised if you find it difficult to say NO to others. This came out during the tapping we did during our coaching session on Being Consent Savvy… part of the Knowing…Asking…Negotiating Program (available at the