Trauma Relief
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Tuning Into Your Inner Courage and Strength
I’ve spent a lot of my life running and doing 3 things at once. It helped distract me from all my emotions. Since I’ve started tapping, I’ve been able to slow down and enjoy life more. The problem is, if I get too quiet, this strong fear shows up. I’ve been working through that, and…
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Tapping To Release The Pain of Betrayal and Abandonment
My therapist just told me he is no longer doing private sessions. I feel devastated and abandoned. I know there are other therapists, but I trusted him and now he’s not there anymore. I feel betrayed, like there’s no place else to go. —Kim Cathy answers: I do know how that feels, Kim. I’m sorry.…
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I’m Afraid of Being Just Like My Mother… All Emotional and Scary
I find myself very scared of being like my mother. She was either very emotional in a scary way, or depressed and not available. Please help!
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When You Feel Trapped, Restore the Sense of an Exit
Feeling trapped can activate extraordinary intensity even when leaving is not immediately necessary. The nervous system often needs to know that an exit exists before it can calmly evaluate whether staying is chosen. This Guide explores the difference between committing freely and remaining because an old rule says we are not allowed to leave. In…
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When an Accusation Makes Shame Feel True
An accusation can enter the body faster than thought. Before we assess the facts, we collapse, freeze, apologize, or assume the other person’s certainty must mean we are wrong. Clarity may arrive hours later: “Wait. That was not accurate.” Then a second layer appears—shame that we felt ashamed, or anger that we did not defend…
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Grief Is a Recalibration, Not a Timetable
Loss changes more than our thoughts. A person, animal, home, role, relationship, or future may have become part of how the body located itself in the world. When that connection changes, the whole system has to recalibrate. That is one reason grief can feel like part of us has been torn away. We are not…
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Turn Hypervigilance Into Appropriate Alertness
Hypervigilance can feel nonnegotiable: if we stop watching, something will happen and no one will protect us. The system stays at maximum alert in bed, behind a locked door, or during an ordinary conversation. Trying to switch it off entirely may feel dangerous. A more workable goal is range—the ability to choose an alertness level…