Sex, Love, & Relationships
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Inviting Connection
Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day. The day EVERYONE wants to be loved. Yes, we all want to be loved everyday, but this time of year is a great time to take stock of where we are and see if we want to upgrade. How much more love and connection would you like in your life? On…
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Find Your Heart’s Desire Without Forcing the Form
We can become so attached to one picture of fulfillment that we lose contact with the living desire underneath it. Advertising, family stories, and cultural rituals offer ready-made forms: the perfect partner, proposal, home, career, or celebration. Those forms may genuinely appeal to us. But when they become proof that we are loved or whole,…
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Stop Rescuing: Move From Taking Care of People to Co-Creating
Rescuing can look like extraordinary love. We anticipate, manage, remind, soften consequences, and carry emotional weight before the other person has decided what they want to carry. Co-creation keeps care while returning agency. It asks what support is wanted, what each person will own, and whether our help creates capacity or dependence. What Changes When…
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Meet the Person Who Is Here Now
We rarely meet a person without also meeting our history with them. A familiar tone, delay, expression, or mistake can summon an older version so quickly that the present interaction disappears. Meeting the person who is here now does not erase patterns or require naive trust. It means allowing current evidence to join the file.…
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Finding Ease Around Family Without Abandoning Boundaries
Family contact can bring joy and also awaken much younger versions of us. A capable adult enters the room, hears a familiar tone, and suddenly feels five, thirteen, or responsible for everyone’s emotional weather. Ease does not require making the family harmonious. It comes from bringing more choice, support, and adult capacity into the encounter.…
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Vulnerability As Strength
When you speak your truth… When you profess your love… When you ask for what you want… When you step out of your comfort zone… You are being VULNERABLE. But it wasn’t safe for many of us to be vulnerable when we were young. Showing our “soft underbelly” opened us up to ridicule, judgment, and…
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Say What’s Not Being Said: Reid’s Formula for Difficult Conversations
This is a fantastic article by sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko. I’ve used it a number of times and even though it felt a bit awkward and scary at first, it made a huge difference and cleared up some old blocked conversations beautifully. Thank you, Reid, for letting us share this here! It’s what…