Sex, Love, & Relationships
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Vulnerability With Resilience
Vulnerability is often described as openness, but openness without capacity can feel like exposure. The more useful pairing is vulnerability with resilience: letting something meaningful be seen while remaining able to protect, recover, repair, and choose. We do not need to become fearless. We need enough inner and relational support that fear does not make…
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Parenting Regret Can Become Repair, Not a Life Sentence
Parenting regret can turn a painful moment or season into a permanent identity: I failed them, I should have known, I do not deserve to move on. The shame feels like loyalty to the child and proof that we care. Repair asks something different. It invites honest responsibility, age-appropriate acknowledgment, changed behavior, and respect for…
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Loving and Accepting Ourselves… Right Where We Are
(And why is Cathy in her bra???) One of the basic tenants of EFT/Tapping is “Loving and Accepting Ourselves… Right Where We Are”. We tap on this for a reason: As long as we’re fighting, blaming, or shaming ourselves… or believing other people’s stories about what’s wrong with us… it’s hard to have a happy…
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Soothing Insecurity
Do you find your heart hurting and your mood sinking when you notice others laughing, looking secure, being in love? Do you see someone celebrating abundance, and sometimes, no matter how hard you try, you feel resentful that they have it… and you don’t… ? I used to think there was something wrong with me…
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Ask for What You Need Without Making Anyone Wrong
A need can feel dangerous to name. We may wait until resentment makes the request sharp, or explain so thoroughly that the other person is required to agree with our case. Clear asking separates the need from the verdict. We can say what would help, listen to the other person’s capacity, and decide what we…
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Romance Without Obligation: Love Languages, Apology, and Boundaries
People give and receive love in different ways. One person feels cherished through words; another through practical help, time, touch, or a thoughtful gift. Trouble begins when we assume the form that feels obvious to us must feel equally meaningful to someone else. Learning each other’s language can create warmth. It should not create a…
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Awkward is Okay!
by Cathy Vartuli I hated feeling awkward growing up. I thought something was wrong with me. I kept hoping that if I tried hard enough, learned enough, healed enough, I wouldn’t feel that uncertain, uncomfortable feeling ever again. Does this sound familiar to you? EFT / Tapping can certainly help us feel more calm and…