Emotional States
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A Holiday Cannot Measure Your Lovability
Valentine’s Day and other relationship-centered occasions can compress an entire life into one public-looking score: partnered or alone, celebrated or forgotten, chosen or not chosen. The primitive brain reads those comparisons as belonging information. Calling out the message lets us meet the ache without allowing a calendar, advertisement, or photograph to define our lovability. What…
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Shame Is a Weight, Not Your Identity
Shame can become so familiar that it feels like personality. We say I am broken, unlovable, weak, selfish, or too much when the body is actually carrying an emotional weight learned in relationship. Even a small reduction changes how we breathe and what we can imagine. The remaining shame may become more noticeable, but noticing…
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Love, Shame, and Acceptance
Shame can make love feel conditional and acceptance feel dangerously exposed. It can turn a mistake, rejection, unmet longing, or someone else’s departure into a verdict about who we are. Rick and Cathy led this six-call series and the opening group exploration with Circle members. Together they examined how shame lives in the body, how…
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Make It Two Points Better, Not Fifty Times Bigger
Huge goals can inspire us. They can also create such a gap between the present and the imagined future that the body cannot find a movement. If this experience is a three out of ten, we may not need to make it a ten. We can ask what would make it a five. Two points…
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Regret, Shock, and Shame – Healing
Our deepest wish for you this season is for your heart, body, and mind to find profound relief from any and all regrets, shocks, and shames that remain in your emotional world. We love you… with all your challenges… all your confusions and moments of chaos. We love you… with all your clarity, your hopes,…
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When You Suppress Pain, Joy Gets Flattened Too
After a period of intense sadness, fear, or uncertainty, we may learn to press the emotional volume down. It can bring temporary stability. Then something good approaches and we discover that excitement, possibility, and joy have also become difficult to feel. The system did not selectively mute only what hurt. It narrowed the range. Joy…
