Boundaries
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When Family Discomfort Makes Your Boundary Feel Wrong
You decide to set a reasonable limit. Before you even say it, your chest tightens, your skin crawls, and you can almost feel the other person’s upset inside your own body. The intensity can make the boundary seem cruel or mistaken. Yet some of what you are feeling may not be guidance about the boundary.…
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Earning on Your Own: Income Anxiety, Boundaries, and Clear Charges
Wanting income of your own can carry many meanings at once: contribution, freedom, competence, safety, identity, or relief from the vulnerability of depending on someone else. The desire is not a problem. Yet when income is assigned the job of eliminating every anxious feeling, earning becomes an emotional emergency. Every bill proves that you are…
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Tapping When Being Bullied At Work
I could use some help with being bullied at work. I have done some tapping, and that gave me the courage to bring the problem to the attention of my boss. I know I’m worthy of respect, but some of my co-workers have been ganging up on me and freezing me out. I want to…
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He Won’t Listen To My Boundaries
I’ve been trying to set boundaries with my spouse, but he just ignores them, no matter what I say. It’s really frustrating! I’m trying to learn to stand up for myself, but this is hard! My heart is hurting. –Lorie We’re sorry you’re hurting. You are trying to set boundaries with someone when he seems…
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Taking Care of Yourself Around Toxic Family
It’s hard when family or friends feel the need for us to conform to a pattern that we spent years breaking out of! They may become defensive or verbally abusive if we don’t meet their expectations. They may do everything they can to push us back into that old pattern, ignoring all the changes we’ve…
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You Can’t Handle My “No”!
A lot of us hold back from saying “No” because we don’t want to hurt the other person, or because we don’t want to face their reaction to our boundary. Learn to feel safe saying No and reclaim your inner power!
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The Forced-Performance Trap: Work, Calls, and Financial Safety
You know the call matters. Someone asked about your services. Returning it could lead to income. Yet days pass. The phone feels like a demand rather than an opportunity, and the longer you wait, the more shame gathers around it. This can be more than fear of the conversation. A protective part may be refusing…