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We often ask people what they feel needs to change so they can feel free…
About 50% of them include weight loss , being slender or thin, in their answer. But unless you change the emotions, you can lose all the weight you want and still be just as stuck and unhappy as you are now… whatever your weight is.
Yes, a lot of excess weight can pose a problem physically — it can be hard to get around and fit into restaurant chairs and airplane seats, but the emotional baggage is important, too.
A lot of times we blame our weight for everything that’s wrong in our lives. We think we’ll be happy and free if ONLY we were thin. But we’re creating a fantasy person.
Even if someone loses 100lbs, they will still sometimes have bad breath and bad hair days. They will still be grouchy and tired sometimes. They still hurt at times.
A lot of people have created this fantasy that being slender will fix all their problems. Is that true for you? You can test to see…
Imagine you are as slender and fit as you dream you could be. Get as tuned into that picture as you can. See if you can “visualize” the sounds, smells, and physical feeling of being “her” or “him”. You may want to close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Looking at her… do you envision someone who is completely confident and carefree? Someone who doesn’t get her heart broken or lose her car keys in the morning? If so, you have created a story that isn’t true.
And the really cool thing is, you can work on feeling confident and carefree, no matter if you’re losing weight or not! In fact, for a lot of people, it is the releasing of the blocks to self-confidence and happiness that finally allows them to naturally move to a more pleasing weight…not the other way around.
The fantasy we create is really attractive. It’s easier to blame the weight for our unhappiness (and our society does place a lot of blame and judgement on weight) than to dig into our subconscious and find and release the blocks that are holding us in place. The problem is, if we don’t release those blocks, we can force our bodies to a size 2 and still be radically miserable! And as soon as we stop forcing and dieting, our body will rebound… and then some. Hence yo-yo dieting.
If you can build a connection with your body and learn to love it, you can be happy and fulfilled NOW and as you lose weight and when you’ve lost the weight.
And you won’t have to fight your body to do it. You’ll naturally flow there.
Freedom isn’t numbers on a scale or on the label inside your pants. It’s a state of being. If this makes sense to you, try tapping on this: ****
Side of the Hand: Even though I thought I had to lose weight to be free and loved, I’m choosing to feel loved and find my freedom NOW, no matter what my weight is.
Even though I thought I had to lose weight to reclaim my body and my life, I choose to reclaim it NOW and love my body into health rather than forcing it.
Even though I’ve felt trapped, and I blamed the weight, I can tap and release the blame and the blocks that have been keeping me stuck. I choose freedom and delight NOW.
Top of the Head: I thought I had to wait.
Eyebrow: I had to be thin… FIRST.
Side of the Eye: Then I would be free.
Under the Eye: Then I would be lovable.
Under the Nose: What if I’m lovable NOW?
Chin: Why do I need to wait?
Collarbone: I’m tired of being stuck.
Under the Arm: I want to feel free and loved.
Top of the Head: I don’t feel free.
Eyebrow: But maybe it’s not about the weight.
Side of the Eye: I know there are some fears tucked away…
Under the Eye: And the weight protects me from facing them.
Under the Nose: What if I gathered my courage…
Chin: And got some loving support,
Collarbone: And faced those fears now?
Under the Arm: I would feel freer!
Top of the Head: I’ve been blaming the weight.
Eyebrow: But it’s just there to protect me.
Side of the Eye: When I don’t need all that insulation…
Under the Eye: My body can release the weight easily.
Under the Nose: I choose to release those fears.
Chin: I choose to reclaim my freedom.
Collarbone: I’m going to start loving me today.
Under the Arm: I can love myself now…
Top of the Head: And enjoy my freedom as I lose this weight.
Take a deep breath.
How does this feel? What came up for you?
The Thriving Now Circle is a place to get support and guidance as you reclaim your freedom and transform your fears.
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