Sex, Love, & Relationships
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Money and Romantic Relationships: Trust, Independence, and Shared Dreams
Money in partnership can represent safety, commitment, freedom, power, rescue, or proof that two people share a future. Disagreement about an amount may actually be disagreement about whose dream matters and whether either person is allowed to remain independent. The goal is not perfect financial sameness. It is enough clarity that money does not have…
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Forgiveness For Myself and Others
– Reperception of life rather than an act of forgiveness. – Ex was a cowardly jerk. – Screwed up my life. – All my fault!
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Asking, Lending, and Setting Money Boundaries
Money between people carries more than an amount. A request may evoke shame. A loan may become proof of love. A cancellation policy may feel cruel. A gift may include expectations nobody says aloud. Clear boundaries do not remove emotion, but they keep emotion from silently rewriting the agreement. A Request Must Permit No Asking…
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I’m Sorry, So Sorry!
– Regret and embarrassment – I hurt him. – I’m sorry for everything! – Feel bad about the way I treated my son.
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When Asking for Help Feels Like Signing a Hidden Contract
Some people avoid asking for help even when the need is obvious and the request is reasonable. They keep fixing, carrying, researching, paying, or enduring because receiving support does not feel free. It feels like signing a contract whose terms will be revealed later. Perhaps help once arrived with criticism, control, guilt, unwanted intimacy, repayment…
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Letting Go of Expectations
– “Good” and “bad” expectations. – Unrealistic expecations – Expectations of self and body – Wanted them to notice what I’d done – Pain, expected my body to heal – It always comes back!