Sex, Love, & Relationships
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When Asking for Help Feels Like Signing a Hidden Contract
Some people avoid asking for help even when the need is obvious and the request is reasonable. They keep fixing, carrying, researching, paying, or enduring because receiving support does not feel free. It feels like signing a contract whose terms will be revealed later. Perhaps help once arrived with criticism, control, guilt, unwanted intimacy, repayment…
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Letting Go of Expectations
– “Good” and “bad” expectations. – Unrealistic expecations – Expectations of self and body – Wanted them to notice what I’d done – Pain, expected my body to heal – It always comes back!
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I Feel Betrayed
– By my body, my inner child, EFT, myself, Abraham. – What was the expectation? – How much do I expect people to betray me?
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I Take on Too Much Responsibility
– I’ve taken care of everyone since I was a kid – I MUST make them happy – I have to make up for all that time – I have to save them, no one else will – My parents needed me to be in charge
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When Responsibility Becomes the Price of Love
Being useful can become a way to secure belonging. You solve, organize, pay, anticipate, and carry more than your share. Other people may appreciate it, but underneath is a frightening bargain: if I stop being responsible for everyone, will anyone still need or love me? Responsibility is a strength. It becomes costly when it is…
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Their Judgements are Stopping Me!
– What a stupid idiot – Constant judgement from Mom – Its all my fault – Need to be brave no matter what – My very existance was judged