Sex, Love, & Relationships
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Trust in Layers Instead of All or Nothing
After betrayal or abuse, trust can feel like standing on a hot surface: every direction seems dangerous. We may let no one close, or place enormous trust in the first person who feels safe because loneliness has become unbearable. Trust works better as a series of specific, revisable choices. We do not have to decide…
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Ask for What You Want Without Making the Answer Mean Everything
Many families teach asking indirectly. We hint, leave clues, hope someone notices, and feel hurt when they do not. A direct request may once have brought ridicule, guilt, anger, or reminders that our needs were inconvenient. The tongue learns to stay still even after the environment changes. Clear asking does not guarantee yes. It gives…
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Honor Commitments Without Turning Them Into Tribal Obligation
Reliability matters. Our word helps other people plan, trust, and collaborate with us. Yet “I must keep every commitment no matter what” can become a rule that ignores illness, new information, changing capacity, or an agreement that is no longer healthy. The alternative is not casual flakiness. It is treating commitments as relationships that deserve…
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Build Your Tribe by Inviting Instead of Waiting to Be Chosen
Adult friendship rarely arrives as a finished tribe. People have schedules, established circles, different needs, and uneven capacity to initiate. If we wait to be noticed and adopted, ordinary non-response can reinforce the old belief that we do not matter. Building tribe is an emotional and practical practice: knowing what kind of connection nourishes us,…
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Dealing with Rejection!
Rejection is a big block to moving forward in our power. Dealing with Rejection: He Doesn’t Want To See Me! (with Inner Tapping) Watch the video or read and tap along. Or both, if you like! We’ve all been hurt some time. The insecurity, the feeling of rejection when someone doesn’t want to see you…
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Tapping for Dealing with Surprise!
You can watch the video, read below, or both! And tap to increase resiliency and ease in your life! Hey everyone. I’m Cathy Vartuli from Thriving Now and today we’re talking about dealing with surprise. When we get surprised it hurts. A lot of us were taught that surprise is painful. We were brought up…