Emotional States
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Sadness Is Not Self-Pity or Wallowing
Some of us learned a rigid emotional rule: sadness is self-pity, and allowing it means wallowing. That rule may have earned approval. People preferred us cheerful, uplifting, or easy to be around. We learned coping skills for becoming happy quickly—and lost permission to recognize when sadness was simply moving through. An emotion is not the…
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Vibrational Handwashing: Clear What You Pick Up From Other People
We understand washing our hands after contact with germs. Yet after spending a day around fear, urgency, grief, conflict, or need, we may carry the emotional atmosphere home without any transition. We call a deliberate clearing practice vibrational handwashing. It is a way to acknowledge that humans naturally register one another’s states—and that what we…
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Feeling Safe to Be Paid for Your Work
You can know intellectually that your work has value and still tighten when it is time to name a fee, send an invoice, or receive payment. The body may remember a very different lesson: work means effort and deprivation, other people enjoy themselves, and you are left without acknowledgment or pay. Being compensated then feels…
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When Deadlines Feel Like Trouble
A deadline can be useful information: several people need their work to arrive at the same time. Yet the body may hear something entirely different: You are in trouble. You will disappoint someone. You will be trapped, judged, or punished. When deadlines carry that charge, resistance is not simply poor time management. The calendar has…
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Sales Anxiety: Rejection, Self-Blame, and Fear of Getting It Wrong
Sales trouble can feel intensely personal. A prospect hesitates, the presentation does not land, paperwork feels frightening, or calls do not convert. The practical event quickly becomes: I have lost it. They do not believe me. I am selling the wrong thing. Something is wrong with me. Those thoughts may arrive at four-thirty in the…
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Loneliness – I’m Very Lonely
I don’t deserve connection… I don’t belong… They never really accepted me and that hurts… I hate to be alone!
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Ashamed – I Am Ashamed of Myself
Shame: Something that is wrong about who I am… Guilt: Something wrong that I did… Should have… Jealousy and anger… I was so mean.