Emotional States
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Loneliness – I’m Very Lonely
I don’t deserve connection… I don’t belong… They never really accepted me and that hurts… I hate to be alone!
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Ashamed – I Am Ashamed of Myself
Shame: Something that is wrong about who I am… Guilt: Something wrong that I did… Should have… Jealousy and anger… I was so mean.
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I Hate Being Dependent on Others: A Guide to Healthy Interdependence
We all depend on (rely on) others for support. The angst comes from a few sources: 1) If someone gives me something, I owe them or they control me. (other definitions of dependent). 2) A belief in lack- if I rely on this, and it goes away, I won’t be able to stand it! 3)…
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Father Issues: Finding Safety, Respect, and Freedom Around Father’s Day
– My Father was ____, and that makes me feel _____, and I want to feel ____.
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Betrayed – I Feel Betrayed By My Body
People generally feel betrayed when their bodies “let them down”, by hurting, getting ill or tired, or not being able to perform some task. Where did we get the belief that our bodies should just keep ticking along, no matter what we ask of them?
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Afraid – I’m Afraid to be Visible
Being visible means different things to different people. This fear can hold us back in business, public speaking, romantic relationships, any social activity. When we feel we need to hide, there is generally a sense of fear or shame (or both).
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When Struggle Feels Like Loyalty to Your Family
Struggle can become more than a difficult experience. It can become a language of belonging. If family conversations centered on hardship, sharing what is going wrong may have been how people connected. Ease can then feel strangely disloyal—as though a peaceful life would reject the people who taught us how to endure. We may say…