Body Vitality, Safety, & Self-Image
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When Receiving Help Feels Scarier Than Struggling Alone
Competence can be a strength and a survival strategy. If relying on people once brought disappointment, control, humiliation, or abandonment, we may organize life around never needing anyone. We prepare, save, work, carry, and solve. The capability is real. So is the fear underneath it. Then illness, injury, grief, financial strain, or simple human limits…
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If I Stop These Negative Thoughts, I Won’t Be Safe!
Why do you keep repeating negative thoughts? There is a certain draw to them. Almost like watching a car accident… That semi-compulsive feeling comes from somewhere. And it has roots in some very important survival skills. When you notice yourself in a pattern of negative thoughts, mugged by your own mind: Congratulate yourself on noticing!…
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Tapping for Mental Muggings And Upgrading Your Thoughts…
Ever feel like your thoughts were a car skidding out of control… And you were trapped inside? Thoughts can be SO powerful. And believable. It’s easy to get caught up in them and sucked into the story they create. Yet those stories, for many of us, are incredibly negative and fear filled. If you saw…
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What makes you feel safe?
What makes you feel safe? What if you could trigger that safe feeling more easily? Let’s explore this together… Okay… So when you reach for safety, what do you reach for? Write down the first thing you think of (food, a hug from a certain person, your bed, your pet, or your credit card)
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How much does your brain get in your way?
What do you think your limiting beliefs and fears take away from your life? I was surprised to be reminded how big an impact they can have, in a not very fun way, last week… I’ve cleared away a lot, and have gotten used to feeling pretty resilient through most things. (That doesn’t mean I…
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Your Worth Is Not Your Productivity
When worth has been tied to output, even a small increase in energy can trigger a flood of demands. “If I feel a little better, I should clean the whole house, catch up, earn more, help everyone, and prove I am not lazy.” The body may learn that more energy means more pressure. Remaining depleted…
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When Play Feels Unfair
It can be surprisingly hard to play while someone we love is working. Even with explicit permission, the body may feel that rest, pleasure, or recreation is unfair unless everyone is doing the same amount at the same time. That reaction may come from family rules about labor, gender, worth, or togetherness. It can also…