Emotional States
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Stop Weighing Yourself to Decide Your Worth
A scale can offer one measurement and still become a daily judge of character, lovability, discipline, and permission to feel good. What looks irrational about weight often becomes understandable when we ask what the body expects and what this response has been trying to prevent. With weight, the aim is not to make the body…
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Can You Feel Abundant on a Tight Budget?
A tight budget keeps the number in front of you. Every purchase requires calculation. Paying down debt can feel like years of restriction stretching into the future. Advice to “feel abundant” may sound insulting when the available money is genuinely limited. We do not use abundance to deny arithmetic. A budget is information about what…
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I’m Too Needy
– I need love and affection – If anyone loves me, there must be something wrong with them – I need to not appear needy – I’ve been used by those who were needy
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When Your Belly Is Trying to Protect You
A belly can become the focus of body war while also carrying meanings of protection, stored readiness, visibility, sexuality, or being prepared for scarcity. What looks irrational about belly often becomes understandable when we ask what the body expects and what this response has been trying to prevent. With belly, the aim is not to…
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Mother’s Day
– She can’t accept me as I am – She wasn’t there for me – I took care of her! – Mom went away emotionally – She didn’t really see me
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I Can’t Slow Down, I Might Feel…
– If I slow down I might not get the work I need – I might feel not good enough – Alone, sad and unsupported – I need to distract myself
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If Love Wasn’t Your First Language, You Can Still Become Fluent
Some people grew up surrounded by affection, emotional repair, warm attention, and words that matched caring actions. Love became a language their bodies learned without formal instruction. Others grew up where love was present but rarely spoken in a recognizable form—or where fear, criticism, neglect, volatility, or control drowned it out. They entered adulthood wanting…