Emotional States
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I’m Too Needy
– I need love and affection – If anyone loves me, there must be something wrong with them – I need to not appear needy – I’ve been used by those who were needy
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When Your Belly Is Trying to Protect You
A belly can become the focus of body war while also carrying meanings of protection, stored readiness, visibility, sexuality, or being prepared for scarcity. What looks irrational about belly often becomes understandable when we ask what the body expects and what this response has been trying to prevent. With belly, the aim is not to…
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Mother’s Day
– She can’t accept me as I am – She wasn’t there for me – I took care of her! – Mom went away emotionally – She didn’t really see me
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I Can’t Slow Down, I Might Feel…
– If I slow down I might not get the work I need – I might feel not good enough – Alone, sad and unsupported – I need to distract myself
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If Love Wasn’t Your First Language, You Can Still Become Fluent
Some people grew up surrounded by affection, emotional repair, warm attention, and words that matched caring actions. Love became a language their bodies learned without formal instruction. Others grew up where love was present but rarely spoken in a recognizable form—or where fear, criticism, neglect, volatility, or control drowned it out. They entered adulthood wanting…
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Jealousy
– Discussion about the gift of jealousy – Jealous of my boyfriends vitality and confidence – Betrayed by my friends – Jealous of coaches who charge a lot of money – Really want proof that I am a good person
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Supporting an Adult Child Without Letting Guilt Decide
When an adult child is struggling, love can become tangled with guilt, regret, fear, and responsibility. A parent may keep paying, rescuing, arranging, or absorbing consequences long after the support has stopped feeling clear. The difficult question is rarely, “Do I love them?” The harder question is, “What kind of support serves life now?” There…