Body Vitality, Safety, & Self-Image
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Why the Body May Store a Little Extra for Safety
A little extra food on the plate, chocolate kept close, or softness around the belly may carry meanings that have little to do with laziness. To the primitive brain, stored energy can mean warmth, survival, comfort, ritual, love, and proof that there will be enough tomorrow. This does not explain every body size or eating…
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Vulnerability As Strength
When you speak your truth… When you profess your love… When you ask for what you want… When you step out of your comfort zone… You are being VULNERABLE. But it wasn’t safe for many of us to be vulnerable when we were young. Showing our “soft underbelly” opened us up to ridicule, judgment, and…
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Loving and Accepting Ourselves… Right Where We Are
(And why is Cathy in her bra???) One of the basic tenants of EFT/Tapping is “Loving and Accepting Ourselves… Right Where We Are”. We tap on this for a reason: As long as we’re fighting, blaming, or shaming ourselves… or believing other people’s stories about what’s wrong with us… it’s hard to have a happy…
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Awkward is Okay!
by Cathy Vartuli I hated feeling awkward growing up. I thought something was wrong with me. I kept hoping that if I tried hard enough, learned enough, healed enough, I wouldn’t feel that uncertain, uncomfortable feeling ever again. Does this sound familiar to you? EFT / Tapping can certainly help us feel more calm and…
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Inner Beauty Is More Than Your Form
Inner beauty is sometimes offered as a polite alternative when physical beauty feels unavailable: “At least you are beautiful on the inside.” That framing still treats the outer form as the real prize and the inner life as compensation. We mean something more substantial. Inner beauty is the person becoming visible through the form—the courage,…
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Are You… TOO MUCH?
Are you… Too nice? Too smart? Too happy? Are you… Too much? Ouch! When people view us as being too much of anything, it can really trigger our primitive brain. We can feel this need… a compulsion almost… to tone ourselves down, to stay within other people’s comfort zones (no matter how narrow THEIR range…
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When Femininity and Visibility Feel Dangerous
A feminine spark can feel joyful, sensual, creative, powerful, soft, or playful. It can also activate memories of unwanted attention, family judgment, danger, or the belief that appearance exists for other people’s evaluation. Reclaiming expression does not require performing femininity, accepting a gender rule, or making the body available to anyone. It means having more…