Sex, Love, & Relationships - Index

Unloved - I Am Unlovable Because…
I don’t do what they wanted me to... My weight... I’m too much... I’m not good enough... I’m defective.
 
It’s My Fault
They’re blaming me... Responsible for their happiness... I should have known better... Waiting for his forgiveness... He said I wasn’t a good mother.
 
Is It Safe To Care About Myself?
Put everyone else first... Selfish to care about myself... Better to give than receive... I can’t be abundant or I’m not a good person... Pleasure in caring for other... Do I know what my needs are?? Finding a balance.
 
Criticized - I Feel Criticized
Criticize: Find fault, judge, denounce. Self criticism vs external. Want to feel peaceful, powerful, forgiven, acceptable. Tapping on Inner Critic. Everyone must love me so they won’t hurt me. I have to be perfect to be acceptable!
 
Unsafe - It’s Not Safe To Feel Safe
If I felt safe… People might be jealous. I wouldn’t be alert enough. I will attract dangerous people or things. Something terrible will happen. I’m not allowed to feel safe, I don’t deserve it.
 
Impatience - I’m So Impatient
I’m So Impatient with my clients, why won’t the decide? I am so frustrated with myself, I can’t be wrong and be loved. Heal, Damn it! My body’s confused.
 
Loneliness - I’m Very Lonely
I don't deserve connection... I don't belong... They never really accepted me and that hurts... I hate to be alone!
 
I Am Not Wanted
I am not wanted... My needs are ignored... I want to be chased... Not wanted as a baby... I don't want myself the way I am.
 
I Have To Be Special To Get What I Want
I can never get what I want... I *know* I Have to be special to get what I want... I’m powerless.
 
Ashamed - I Am Ashamed of Myself
Shame: Something that is wrong about who I am... Guilt: Something wrong that I did... Should have... Jealousy and anger... I was so mean.
 
Father’s Day - Father Issues
- My Father was ____, and that makes me feel _____, and I want to feel ____.
 
I Need To Be Seen!
All physical beings seem to require attention and care. It is our job (on the primitive survival level) as children to engage with our care givers. Human beings will contort themselves in order to get attention and recognition, in order to be seen.
 
Mother’s Day… Mother Issues
We’ll look at some of the issues around Mother’s Day and help you tap through pain that might be in the way of having a better relationship with your mother (or at least feeling calm when you think of her).
 
I Am Unforgivable
How much punishment do we need to inflict before we can forgive ourselves? How will we know when we can forgive ourselves? What would we need to do to be forgiven?
 
Unwanted - I Don’t Feel Wanted
Many people who carry this belief learned it when they were very young. As adults, we may not need a particular caregiver, but we are aware of needing our social network to receive the abundance we have (electricity, telephone, transportation, medical care, social connection). When we have a "not wanted" wound, any form of rejection or distance may trigger that fear and pain.
 
I Don’t Deserve to Get What I Want
We sometimes know very clearly what we want (our goal), see other people getting it, and we're NOT. Why??? In this audio recording we address the limiting beliefs around deserving... deserving health, wealth, happiness. $9.95 Audio MP3, Free for Team Members
         
 
I’m Not Allowed To Change… I’m Bound By Family Rules
What are family rules? Generational "laws of the universe" as your family understood them. Family rules limit us. They are what was decided in the past; they are not guidance for today.
 
I Always Sabotage Myself
We’ve all gotten in our own way. We feel motivated... excited about moving forward. We have a clear goal in mind. We may even get close, when... WHAM! We do something that puts us back where we started... a bit bruised and feeling defeated. Use this EFT audio to effectively clear the subconscious blocks to feeling safe moving forward with ease. $9.95 Audio MP3, Free for Team Members
         
 
They Picked On Me!
Why is being picked on by others so painful? Such negative experiences early in life can leave a “permanent” mark on us... creating limiting beliefs that affect our quality of life even decades later. It's time to free yourself of their taunts and judgments NOW... using EFT. $9.95 Audio MP3, Free for Team Members
         
 
Yeah, I Just Love V.D. (Valentine’s Day) - NOT!
Give your heart some sweet relief around the negative emotions of Valentine's Day... especially if this day makes you feel “less than loved.” A lot of people feel depressed or stressed around Valentine's Day. Whether they are in a relationship or not, the focus on "love" often creates anxiety, fear, and feelings of lack and unworthiness. We explore some of the reasons for the pain and offer EFT energy tapping to bring relief and enhance the heart connection with ourselves and friends and lovers. (This recording is useful year-round for relationship and love pain.) $9.95 Audio MP3, Free for Team Members
         
 
Unappreciated - I Feel Unappreciated
I expected to be appreciated! I have to earn appreciation... Why can’t they see all of me? I need their approval... I have to be a good girl... Not sure I deserve appreciation...
 
Relationships - 2006-04-13
In this team call we cover a daughter coming to visit with her husband, the evolution of the relationship, and how we might break down the boxes that tie us to certain stressful beliefs about “how it must be.”
 
Trust & Betrayal - 2006-04-09
If we CALL it betrayal because it HURTS like betrayal, that is what matters. In this session I explore with several team members how betrayal feels in the body, and offer some options for “redefining” trust so that the feeling of betrayal is far less likely to ever be experienced.
 
Criticism - 2006-03-26
It can come from others, or we can hear it inside our own heads (often in a way that REMINDS us of how others used to talk to us). In this session, I cover the benefits of using EFT to remove the weapons of emotional destruction from the hands of those around us. When we become calm and confident in the face of criticism, what the criticism can FEEL like is closer to an absurdity ("You’re a purple people eater") than something that makes us want to curl up into a ball.
 
Grief - 2006-03-19
Grief is intertwined with our spiritual beliefs and knowings. So, no discussion of grief can take place without that context being present. As you listen to this team call on grief and loss, it is my hope that the message of the eternalness of Who We Really Are comes through in a way that feels good to you, that provides some measure of relief during times of grief.
 
Guilt & Shame - 2006-03-19
Once we get down to the hurt, the guilt and shame, significant progress can be made. Those feelings that we shouldn’t exist, that we’re not good enough, that we ARE wrong (shame) or that we’ve done wrong (guilt)… these get so strongly ingrained on an energetic level that affects the whole organism.
 
Picking Our Battles - 2006-03-12
A battle, by definition, involves opposing forces. We engage in battle, and by making that choice, by the Law of Attraction we assure ourselves of one thing: what we oppose, even from a righteous heart, will become bigger, and bigger, and bigger in our reality.
 
Jealousy & Envy - 2006-03-12
When we feel jealousy (fearful or wary of being supplanted, or of losing affection or position) or envy (a feeling of discontentment and resentment aroused by desire for the possessions or qualities of another), we can use EFT on the body sensations and use re-perceiving to empower ourselves.