Team Emails

As you listen and participate in team calls and on the forum, you will often hear us asking certain questions. We usually start with safety: “Is it safe for you to move forward?” If it does feel safe, the next checks for other emotional blocks such as guilt, shame, and the need to be punished… or that you have to EARN what you want… “Do you think/feel you deserve to ______(feel better, get abundance, find love)?” If part of you believes you don’t deserve something, you may find yourself…

Just as we learn childhood lessons from bullies at school, we also internalize “life lessons” based on the stories we read and see on TV. And not all the conclusions we draw are helpful. Are you waiting for prince- or princess-charming to wisk you away and make your life all better? Do you think you need to suffer first to be worthy of a fairy godmother and abundance? Is it safe to stand out and appreciate your gifts… or are you afraid that a jealous, evil stepmother will try to harm you?

Do you find yourself repeating patterns from childhood… yet wishing you could change? Family dynamics can be a powerful force in our lives, even if we have little contact with our relatives now. Every family has beliefs and “shoulds” that we absorb subconsciously and never question. Since we learned them in an environment where almost everyone believed and followed these “laws of the family,” we may not even be aware how deeply they affect our behavior as adults.