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Invitation
How good is the relationship between you and your body right now, from 0–10? It can vary across a day or a season. Take a breath and feel the relationship that is here—not the relationship you think you should have.
Tapping makes the invitation active. We move the body, speak honestly, touch natural comfort points, and give the relationship a direction.
Tapping: A Slightly Better Relationship
Side of the Hand: Even though I have not always had a great relationship
with my body, I accept where I am and how I feel right now.
Even though at times I have not had a good relationship with my body—and that
may have been this morning—I am actively open to a better relationship now.
Even though this relationship has been difficult for a long time, I am open to
a slightly better one right now.
Top of the Head: This relationship I have with my body.
Eyebrow: The love and the hate.
Side of the Eye: I have a difficult relationship with my body sometimes.
Under the Eye: You can say that again.
Under the Nose: A difficult relationship sometimes.
Chin: That is the truth.
Collarbone: I wonder if there is a way to make it just a bit better.
Under the Arm: I am open to the possibility of a better relationship right
now.
Top of the Head: I am actively tuning into my body with that intention.
Recheck the relationship. Rub your legs, rest a hand over your heart, look at your hands and arms, or give yourself a gentle hug if that feels right.
Self-Love May Be a Bridge Too Far
Do not require a leap from hatred to love. Moving from hating the body to being frustrated with it can bring real relief. Moving from frustration to respect may be another step. A believable improvement is more relational than a loving statement you do not trust.
The body continues doing an extraordinary amount: the heart beats, blood moves, the nervous system communicates, and countless processes support life. Acknowledging that effort does not deny what hurts.
Tapping: Honor What the Body Is Doing
Side of the Hand: Even though my relationship with my body has been
difficult, it is here with me. My heart is beating. My blood is moving. There
is a lot going on inside me.
I honor and respect what my body is doing to recover, bring relief, and keep me
alive.
Top of the Head: This remaining strain in our relationship.
Eyebrow: I have my reasons.
Side of the Eye: And my body is doing an awful lot for me.
Under the Eye: I am open to a better relationship.
Under the Nose: I do not know exactly what it will look like.
Chin: We have challenges, my body and I.
Collarbone: And I am asking my body to work with me.
Under the Arm: My body and I are on the same side.
Top of the Head: We are in this together, and I am open to honoring that.
Take a breath and let out a sound. Notice whether there is more ease, less strain, or a little more hope.
Make the Relationship Practical
A better relationship includes listening both ways. If you want to create, work, travel, or connect, what might help your body participate? Rest, food, water, stretching, warmth, movement, medicine, or skilled care may be part of the answer.
You do not need to say, “You are doing great.” A truthful nod toward what is working can begin a new conversation.