Sex, Love, & Relationships
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Are You A Lover-Type?
by Rick Wilkes Lover-types crave connection. Lunch alone is food. Lunch with a dear friend is nourishment for body and soul. Love and co-creation makes life warm and delicious. And lover-types often feel anxious and confused by conflicting messages about what they “should do” and who they “should be” in order to be “successful.” I…
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Your Concerns Matter: Asking to Be Taken Seriously
When concerns have often been minimized, asking can carry years of accumulated frustration. We may overexplain, intensify, or arrive already certain that the other person will dismiss us. They react to the pressure, and the old conclusion—“Nobody takes me seriously”—seems confirmed. Your concern matters even before anyone agrees with it. That inner recognition makes a…
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The Vow to Help Everyone: When Generosity Becomes Proof of Worth
Some promises are never spoken aloud. A child notices that being helpful reduces conflict, brings approval, or makes an overwhelmed adult more available. Quietly, the child concludes: I will always help. I will take care of people. Then I will be worthwhile. That vow can grow into genuine kindness. It can also make every request…
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I Want To Be More At Ease… I Want To Feel Like I Belong!
How many of us have been at a party and felt out of place? It’s easy to pretend that next time it will be better. Next time you’ll have the perfect costume, be 10lbs slimmer, have the joke ready at hand. We all dream that the next time we won’t feel alone and scared. The…
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Thousands of People Rejected Me…
Every single week, week after week, thousands and THOUSANDS of people reject me… They say NO. And that is surprisingly okay! Here’s why…
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Can Saying NO Bring You More Love?
By Cathy Vartuli, Emotional Freedom Coach Affection is responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our lives. ~ C.S. Lewis Most of us crave more affection. We want to feel loved and cared about. And we want to share more affection with others… but we don’t know if it’s safe…
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Trying To Support My Friend, And She Snapped at Me!
My best friend just had a bad experience. She’s okay, but it was frightening, and I was pretty worried about her, too. I know she’s stressed, but when I was offering support, she snapped at me! I do understand, but I don’t like being treated that way, either. How do you balance boundaries with compassion?…