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Recent posts from Thriving Now.
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The Ghost of Bag Ladydom: Buying for Yourself Without Panic
You may have money set aside and still feel one purchase away from disaster. Buying for other people feels generous; buying for yourself awakens shame, fear, or the image of ending up with nothing. We sometimes call this the ghost of bag ladydom: an emotional future in which security collapses, dignity disappears, and the resource…
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After Too Many Diets: Rebuilding Cooperation with Your Body
After repeated diets, the body may react to another plan as if force, deprivation, and eventual blame are arriving again. What looks irrational about dieting often becomes understandable when we ask what the body expects and what this response has been trying to prevent. With dieting, the aim is not to make the body responsible…
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I Want to Move Forward, But I’m Missing Something
There are times when each of us can run into a wall. We can be really clear about what we want to change. We feel ready and able to do some tapping and take action. But the issue seems clouded or confused. We just can’t get a handle on what’s holding this problem in place.…
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How to Stop Doing Stupid Stuff… Even When You’re a Really Smart Person
Are you frustrated that you haven’t manifested your heart’s deepest desires? You may have a clear picture of what you want. You may be taking thoughtful action. Yet, there is a mystery that has yet to be uncovered, despite all your introspection. Subconscious fears and beliefs are getting in your way! Even though you have…
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Letting Go of Holiday Stress
– Family Acceptance and expectations – Loneliness – Obligations – Money stress – I won’t feel happy – Finding my tribe
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Repairing the Relationship When You Feel You Betrayed Your Body
Illness, pain, aging, or the effects of earlier choices can create a painful accusation: my body betrayed me—or I betrayed my body. What looks irrational about illness often becomes understandable when we ask what the body expects and what this response has been trying to prevent. With illness, the aim is not to make the…
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I Can’t Be Seen Until I Lose Weight
“I can’t be seen until I lose weight” postpones presentations, photographs, dating, swimming, clothing, and ordinary participation. The future body becomes an admission ticket to life. Avoidance reduces immediate exposure, but it teaches the nervous system that the present body truly is unfit to be witnessed. What This Pattern Is Protecting Visibility is not all-or-nothing.…
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Body Image and the Fear of Not Belonging
Body shame often promises social protection: if I can find and fix what is wrong with me before anyone else notices, perhaps I can avoid rejection. The promise is seductive because belonging matters. But constant self-surveillance makes connection harder. We enter the room already assuming that other people are evaluating the body instead of meeting…
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Forgiveness For Myself and Others
– Reperception of life rather than an act of forgiveness. – Ex was a cowardly jerk. – Screwed up my life. – All my fault!
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Asking, Lending, and Setting Money Boundaries
Money between people carries more than an amount. A request may evoke shame. A loan may become proof of love. A cancellation policy may feel cruel. A gift may include expectations nobody says aloud. Clear boundaries do not remove emotion, but they keep emotion from silently rewriting the agreement. A Request Must Permit No Asking…