February 11, 2017 by Thriving Now Support

How to Stop Doing Stupid Stuff… Even When You’re a Really Smart Person

Are you frustrated that you haven’t manifested your heart’s deepest desires? You may have a clear picture of what you want. You may be taking thoughtful action. Yet, there is a mystery that has yet to be uncovered, despite all your introspection.

Subconscious fears and beliefs are getting in your way!

Even though you have a clear direction and a strong intention, that isn’t enough. Inner power comes to us when all aspects — head, heart, gut, and groin… conscious and subconscious — are in agreement.

For example, if part of you fears you would lose something precious (like freedom, safety, respect, love), your primitive brain will block your progress. (That’s it’s job.)

If you believe on some level that having a Lover means losing your Freedom… you will cut off love connections before they even have the CHANCE to tie you down.

If becoming wealthy would mean (to your subconscious) that you’d become One of THEM — greedy, selfish, heartless — you will do stupid shit even if you’re normally a pretty smart person. What is up with that?!?!

The sabotaging beliefs may make no sense to your conscious thinking brain. We often “learn” our most self-limiting rules when we are very young. (A lot of times as children, we’ll make intuitive leaps or guesses, and these childhood decisions don’t necessarily serve us well as adults.) You may not even be aware that those beliefs are there …until you start acting out of character… again!

What have you done recently to get in your own way?

Subconscious blocks can be hard to uncover. With Energy Tapping (EFT) you can shift them pretty quickly once you find them. But how do you find them?

Connect with your body (especially if it’s uncomfortable). If you’re not paying attention to what your body is telling you, you’re missing key information. If you learned “I won’t get what I want” at the age of one and a half, it didn’t come in words. And it may not even come in a memory you can put your finger on right away. Stop and listen to your body’s sensations… this will reveal to you the energetic doorway out of the subconscious trap you’re in. (Our Free Yourself program trains you step-by-step how to do this.)

Do you KNOW in your bones that you truly DESERVE what you want? Or…

One of the reasons people don’t succeed is because some part of them doesn’t believe they deserve to have success. And the reasons make no sense logically (that’s a clue!).

Imagine you are three years old. You beg and plead for grape juice. You get it! Success! You take that first sip and it taste so delicious. You close your eyes and savor the juicy goodness. Lost in your delight…

…the cup tips…. and the grape juice spills on Mom’s new carpet.

She goes NUTS! Starts screaming about how she’ll never give you grape juice EVER AGAIN! In fact, she never allows it in the house… ever again.

The primitive brain will absolutely make some decisions amidst this kind of trauma. “I’m a screw up. I can’t handle what I want. If I get what I want, I’ll be punished… or hurt the one I love.” And we can still carry that block to abundance 30 years later… where we don’t allow ourselves to get what we desire… so we don’t… Spill The Grape Juice EVER Again!

Try saying out loud, “I don’t deserve to get what I want.” Notice how it feels in your body when you say that.

Now say “I do deserve to get what I want.” Is there any tension or pain anywhere? Any resistance? Heavy feelings?

Those could be places in your body that are holding onto this limiting belief for you. If you have a particular memory that comes up around this, great. If not, no problem. Just notice where you feel the resistance in your body, and give it a number from 0 (no intensity) to 10 (OUCH!).

Karate chop: Even though I don’t deserve what I want… I keep doing stupid stuff to ruin my chances… I’m open to deeply and completely accepting myself anyway.

Even though it doesn’t feel safe to get what I want, just like back then when I messed things up, I’m in the process of transforming this feeling NOW.

Even though I feel this belief in my ______ (stomach, heart, head…), I deeply and completely acknowledge and respect all of my feelings and subconscious fears.

Top of the Head: I don’t deserve what I want.
Eyebrow: I keep doing stupid stuff that sabotages me.
Side of the Eye: I’m afraid to get what I want.
Under the Eye: I never get what I want.
Under the Nose: I must not deserve it.
Chin: I’m convinced I don’t deserve it.
Collarbone: A part of me is convinced… I don’t deserve it.
Under the Arm: What if I don’t deserve it?

Top of the Head: What if I do?
Eyebrow: I don’t deserve it.
Side of the Eye: Yes I do!
Under the Eye: No I don’t!
Under the Nose: They don’t think so…
Chin: Just ask them!
Collarbone: I don’t think so.
Under the Arm: Just ask me!

Top of the Head: Yes I do!
Eyebrow: No I don’t.
Side of the Eye: Oh yes I do!
Under the Eye: No I don’t.
Under the Nose: I don’t deserve it… do I?
Chin: Look what happened back then… and what I’m still doing now!
Collarbone: I can’t trust myself now, can I?
Under the Arm: This is an old pattern that still affects me now.

Top of the Head: And I’m letting it go.
Eyebrow: I’m not 2 or 4 or 10 years old anymore.
Side of the Eye: This is an old, worn-out belief.
Under the Eye: I think I can change this.
Under the Nose: I don’t have to block myself anymore.
Chin: I deserve fresh, juicy success.
Collarbone: And wonderful manifestations.
Under the Arm: I’m in the process of knowing that I deserve what I want… and that it’s safe.
Top of the Head: And that feels amazing.

Take a deep breath, and shake your hands out.

Say out loud, “I deserve to get what I want,” and notice how true it is for you now on a scale of 0 to 10. You may want to jot down any thoughts, beliefs, or memories that your noticed so you can do more tapping later. Also, tune into any feelings of relief you feel. Just be with them for a minute as your vibration shifts and improves.

Changing even a couple of these rigid, subconscious blocks will transform how you live your life. We know how, and soon you will, too:

Self-Sabotage: Removing Your Sub-Conscious Blocks

Working through subconscious beliefs alone can be done. It’s just a LOT more fun and fulfilling when you share the experience with coaches like us! Our group coaching program provides a safe haven where we take the OUCH out of personal transformation… together.


  • sanddollarscholar . says:

    Why has nobody commented on this before? This is amazing!

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