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From the archived Rick and Carol EFT podcast series. The series is complete.
Episode #38 – Tapping For Love
How can tapping be used to attract love and relationships? This is a big topic, so start with your specific beliefs about love. Do you think being in love means you risk heartbreak? Or that you’ll have to take care of your partner or be at his or her beck and call? Where did you learn those rules? Tap along to release your blocks and start loving yourself more today. With the Law of Attraction, when you’re tuned into love and acceptance, you attract more of the same.
Companion Guide
“How can I use tapping to attract love?” is as broad as “How should I dress for the weather?” The useful answer depends on the emotional climate: heartbreak, loneliness, fear of dependence, distrust, grief, or a belief that love always demands too much.
Instead of tapping globally for “a relationship,” find the particular rule your body associates with being loved.
This Guide Helps With
- wanting love while feeling unsafe about receiving it
- fearing heartbreak or loss
- believing a partner will be needy or controlling
- expecting love to require self-abandonment
- soothing need without shaming the human need for connection
Ask What Love Has Meant
Complete these sentences quickly:
- Being in love means I have to…
- If I let someone close, they will…
- The last time I loved deeply…
- People who need me…
- If I do not have a partner, it means…
A relationship with a pet can reveal important patterns. Perhaps love has felt safest when you were unquestionably needed. Perhaps the death of an animal companion created a heartbreak so deep that loving again feels intolerable. The relevant doorway is personal, not a generic “block to love.”
Need Is Human; Neediness Is a Signal
Everyone needs love and connection. The difficulty comes when a relationship is expected to fill every lonely, frightened, or unworthy place—or when being needed is the only proof that you matter.
Giving yourself love does not eliminate the need for other people. It helps you approach connection with more capacity to choose, receive, give, and maintain boundaries.
Tapping: Soothing the Needy Place
Side of the Hand: Even though a part of me needs love, and we all do, I choose to give this needy place some care.
Even though I am afraid I will not get the love I want, I can begin by staying connected with myself.
Even though old experiences taught me that love brings heartbreak, obligation, or loss, I accept why part of me protects itself.
Top of the Head: We all need love.
Eyebrow: But how am I going to get it?
Side of the Eye: I am afraid of needing too much.
Under the Eye: I am afraid someone else will need too much from me.
Under the Nose: I remember what happened the last time I loved.
Chin: No wonder there is a protective block here.
Collarbone: I can soothe the needy and frightened place.
Under the Arm: I can start with compassion for myself.
Top of the Head: I love receiving love.
Eyebrow: I also love giving love freely.
Side of the Eye: I can give without becoming someone’s caretaker.
Under the Eye: I can receive without losing myself.
Under the Nose: I can notice whether a relationship is a real yes.
Chin: My boundaries can belong inside love.
Collarbone: I am open to connection that feels mutual and alive.
Under the Arm: I can let love begin with how I relate to myself now.
Take a breath. Notice which phrase brought up a person, loss, or old rule. Use that specific experience for the next round.
Look for the Relationship You Are Actually Asking For
Describe how you want love to feel and function—not only the traits of a partner. Include mutuality, space, affection, play, repair, sexuality, reliability, and boundaries as they matter to you.
Then notice which desired quality produces a “yes, but.” That is where tapping can be especially useful. The goal is not to manufacture a person through perfect vibration. It is to become more available for the love you want and more discerning about what does not fit.
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