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From the archived Rick and Carol EFT podcast series. The series is complete.
Episode #37- Feeling Stuck
When you’re stuck, sometimes the best thing you can do is accept yourself right where you are. It seems counter-intuitive, but sometimes we need to slow down to speed up. Tap along to start moving again!
Companion Guide
Feeling stuck is real, but it is not always a factual description of what is happening. You may be consolidating a change, gathering energy, waiting for something to become ripe, or reaching the edge of what your current clarity can support.
The judgment layered onto stuckness—“I am failing,” “I am stupid,” “I should be farther along”—often consumes more energy than the pause itself.
This Guide Helps With
- frustration and impatience when progress is not visible
- shame about being at a plateau or crossroads
- distinguishing stillness from permanent failure
- finding the hidden meaning attached to “stuck”
- recovering energy for one baby step
Accept the Location Before Demanding Movement
Choose one area: relationship, work, money, body, creativity, or another specific concern. Say, “I feel stuck here.” Notice the immediate conclusion about what that means about you.
Is the painful part the lack of movement, or the identity judgment attached to it? If the judgment is “loser,” “not good enough,” or “always behind,” that is a powerful tapping target in its own right.
Growth Can Be Invisible for a While
A seed beneath cold ground does not look productive, yet processes are continuing. The metaphor may not comfort you when you are impatient, but it suggests a useful question: What might be consolidating, gathering, or becoming clearer even if I cannot see the result?
Do not use that question to romanticize indefinite avoidance. Use it to reduce shame enough to examine the next honest step.
Tapping: Stuck, Impatient, and Still Moving
Side of the Hand: Even though I feel stuck and I would rather be moving, I choose to acknowledge and accept myself.
Even though I do not really accept myself because I feel stuck, I accept that this is how I feel right now.
Even though this is frustrating, irritating, and making me impatient, I can meet myself without adding shame.
Top of the Head: I still feel stuck in this area.
Eyebrow: Why isn’t anything moving?
Side of the Eye: Maybe something is moving that I cannot see.
Under the Eye: But I still feel stuck.
Under the Nose: What if I am not as stuck as I think?
Chin: What if I am consolidating or gathering clarity?
Collarbone: I still feel impatient.
Under the Arm: I can accept the impatience too.
Top of the Head: My desire to move is energy.
Eyebrow: I can release some of the shame around it.
Side of the Eye: I do not have to turn a pause into an identity.
Under the Eye: All kinds of capable people reach a stuck place.
Under the Nose: I may be on the edge of something new.
Chin: I can look for one baby step.
Collarbone: I can also honor what is not ripe.
Under the Arm: I remember that I am still moving.
Take a breath. Ask what the stuck feeling needs you to know: more energy, more information, permission, support, grief, a decision, or time.
Activate the Exact Energy
Use a prop connected with the stuck area: look at the project, message, application, bill, photograph, or object while tapping. Specific contact often reveals more than thinking about “my stuck life” in general.
Then choose the smallest action that would create useful feedback. The purpose is not to force a breakthrough. It is to free the energy tied up in judgment so it can become curiosity, clarity, or movement.
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