Sex, Love, & Relationships
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I Am Unforgivable
How much punishment do we need to inflict before we can forgive ourselves? How will we know when we can forgive ourselves? What would we need to do to be forgiven?
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Unwanted – I Don’t Feel Wanted
Many people who carry this belief learned it when they were very young. As adults, we may not need a particular caregiver, but we are aware of needing our social network to receive the abundance we have (electricity, telephone, transportation, medical care, social connection). When we have a “not wanted” wound, any form of rejection…
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I’m Not Allowed To Change… I’m Bound By Family Rules
What are family rules? Generational “laws of the universe” as your family understood them. Family rules limit us. They are what was decided in the past; they are not guidance for today.
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If I Have Money, How Will I Know Who Truly Loves Me?
Money can create options, comfort, generosity, and power. It can also awaken a painful question: If I have more, will people want me—or access to what I have? One way to avoid that uncertainty is to avoid having enough to attract requests. Another is to give quickly, pay for everything, or keep rescuing so we…
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Unappreciated – I Feel Unappreciated
I expected to be appreciated! I have to earn appreciation… Why can’t they see all of me? I need their approval… I have to be a good girl… Not sure I deserve appreciation…
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Trust Is Not a Promise You Will Never Be Let Down
We often define trust as confidence that another person will not disappoint, leave, change, fail, or choose differently than we need. No human being can honestly promise all of that. This does not mean trust is naive or relationships are unsafe by definition. It means durable trust needs a foundation larger than another person’s perfect…