Sex, Love, & Relationships
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Family Money Beliefs: Stop Repeating—or Fighting—the Scarcity Rules You Inherited
Family money rules can shape us in two opposite-looking ways. We may repeat them: save every scrap, spend every dollar, never ask, always struggle, or distrust anyone with more. Or we may build our financial life in opposition: spend because a parent deprived us, reject planning because control felt suffocating, or pursue wealth to prove…
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When Someone’s Anger Makes Your Body Submit
Some of us become agreeable, careful, small, or intensely helpful the moment another person sounds angry. We may call it weakness or people-pleasing. The body may understand it as survival. If anger once belonged to someone bigger, stronger, unpredictable, or essential to our care, looking submissive could reduce danger. Alertness helped us notice every change…
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Ask for What Is in Character—Then Decide What You Need
We often ask people we know very well for the thing they have repeatedly shown they do not naturally offer. We ask the chronically late person to prove love by arriving precisely on time. We ask the emotionally avoidant relative for a deep repair conversation. We ask the disorganized friend to manage the details. We…
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Tend Your Own Fire Instead of Managing Everyone Else’s Mood
Some of us can feel another person’s mood before they say a word. We notice the flat voice, tight jaw, impatience, or heaviness. Then we abandon our own experience and begin trying to lift theirs. We explain, entertain, appease, solve, change the plan, or absorb the grumpiness until the good energy we started with is…
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Relationships – 2006-04-13
In this team call we cover a daughter coming to visit with her husband, the evolution of the relationship, and how we might break down the boxes that tie us to certain stressful beliefs about “how it must be.”
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Trust & Betrayal – 2006-04-09
If we CALL it betrayal because it HURTS like betrayal, that is what matters. In this session I explore with several team members how betrayal feels in the body, and offer some options for “redefining” trust so that the feeling of betrayal is far less likely to ever be experienced.
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Criticism – 2006-03-26
It can come from others, or we can hear it inside our own heads (often in a way that REMINDS us of how others used to talk to us). In this session, I cover the benefits of using EFT to remove the weapons of emotional destruction from the hands of those around us. When we…