Author: Cathy Vartuli
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Fear of Intimacy: If I Get Close It Will Hurt
Even if we REALLY want love and closeness, if part of us is afraid of being hurt, it will be hard to attract the love we crave. Identifying the fears and then gently releasing them can allow more warmth and intimacy into our lives.
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Allowing Love
– All on my own – Second hand love – Love from others isn’t safe – Crust around my heart, protecting me
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I MUST Hold On To This Feeling
When we start feeling good, our fears can get in the way of enjoying contentment and self-acceptance. Especially if we haven’t had a lot of experience with basking in good feelings, we may be TERRIFIED of losing them.
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Old Rules About Weight Loss
– I hate being DEPRIVED – RULES… and more RULES – Must be All or NOTHING – Mindful eating
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I Don’t Want To Go There Again
– Old Coping Mechanisms are hard to release when we fear we’ll need them again. – Used to self hatred – Medical anxiety – Addictions from when dad divorced me – Falling apart
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I Want To Get Moving
– What do you notice when you think of exercise? – I might get hurt – I can’t do anything – longevity requires extreme physical work – What if movement can be fun and life-affirming? – What if you invited your body along instead of forcing it?
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Fear of Being Alone
– Fear of not finding my tribe – I want to be in relationship – On my own for the first time – Need someone to take care of me – Lack of relationship – Alone in a group – I don’t fit in my family