So many people dear to us are going through challenging times. As Emotional Freedom Coaches, we’ve seen how deep changes in our core beliefs about ourselves, the healing of our old traumas, and the awakening of our heart to new perspectives… changes us. It changes our mind, it changes our body, and it changes the ways we connect with others. This deeply personal transformation brings stuff up. For all of us! And it’s okay. Indeed, it is Growth at its most Lovely-Painful. Please know that we are holding a Good Thought for you! If there is anything we can do to make the process easier for you, please let us know. –Rick & Cathy
After all the progress I’ve made with tapping, I suddenly find myself feeling more afraid and intense. I have a lot of mental noise, and fear, and I’m afraid to move forward, just when I thought I was ready to take the next step. What’s going on? What if I’m like this for the rest of my life?! — Tina
It is frightening when you feel like you’re losing ground. It may help to realize a lot of us have felt the same way.
As we heal and get stronger, we learn that we can make positive changes. This is empowering and it feels really good.
Certain parts of us may have given up years ago. They may have shut down, with no hope of finding relief, leaving those aspects of us numb and out of touch.
As we become more skilled at releasing old beliefs and fears, those shut-down parts may start waking up. If there’s hope… they want help, too! We may find that old pains and negative beliefs come up and it HURTS!
Cathy adds: I often have more mind chatter and feel more stuck when I’m taking a big step forward. The key is (if you can do it) to notice the thoughts and feelings, but realize they aren’t necessarily true.
My big one is “why would anyone want you”. When I take my life to the next level, step into a new comfort zone, that belief comes out with bells on. Even though I’ve tapped on it a zillion times and released it, it seems like there is another layer hidden in the corner I didn’t know about. The bigger the step forward, the louder and bigger the limiting-belief gets. And there is the frustration that it should be GONE by now… But if anyone tells you they are NEVER frightened or insecure, you can be pretty sure they aren’t trying new things or stepping outside their routine.
The tapping I’ve done makes this pattern easier to recognize. I have learned that just because the belief is taking up a lot of space, it doesn’t mean it’s true,and I’ve gotten to the place where I can hear it and interpret it as a scared part of me, and as a sign that I’m doing something big. I can tap on the scared part of me, and let her know I appreciate how frightened she is, and how much she wants to keep me safe.
All this means is that… sometimes, more noise means we’re making progress. It’s counter intuitive, and it can be confusing, but that’s how a lot of us experience growth.
How does that feel to you? Let’s do some EFT Tapping together.
Karate Chop: Even though I have this fear and pain coming up, maybe I’m ok anyway.
Even though it feels like steps backward, and that makes me nervous and anxious, I know I’ve been doing really loving things for myself, and maybe I’m ready to move forward.
Even though I’m scared, that’s a fact, I am open to facing this fear and moving on.
Top of the Head: All these feelings are coming up.
Eyebrow: They feel terrible!
Side of the Eye: I thought I was past this.
Under the Eye: I thought I was better.
Under the Nose: What if I’m messing all this up?
Chin: What if I’m broken?
Collarbone: I’m confused and frustrated,
Under the Arm: And I want relief NOW.
Top of the Head: What if this isn’t the bad sign I think it is?
Eyebrow: What if my system knows I’m strong enough to face this now?
Side of the Eye: Maybe it’s a really good sign…
Under the Eye: That I’m ready to move forward.
Under the Nose: It doesn’t feel good.
Chin: But I know how to deal with it better now.
Collarbone: I have all kinds of skills.
Under the Arm: And I’m tapping as we speak.
Top of the Head: I did hope I was past this.
Eyebrow: But I’m taking on new challenges.
Side of the Eye: I’m way outside my old comfort zones.
Under the Eye: And that is a bit frightening.
Under the Nose: I cleared the limits before.
Chin: I bet I can clear them now, too!
Collarbone: I don’t know what I’ll create.
Under the Arm: But I’m liking who I’m becoming.
Top of the Head: And that feels really good!
Does that make the mind chatter louder or quieter? What are the actual phrases you’re “hearing”? Writing them down can get them out of your head and that can make it easier to look at them objectively.
Does it feel like part of you is scared and trying to hold you back where it’s “safe”? What if you could help that part of you see how safe you really are, and then get her help moving toward the goal? Our Self-Sabotage Relief Package can help you target the beliefs and fears that hold you back from your next level. Get your copy today!
Originally published August 22, 2011