Shackles — a free, self-paced course with Rick Wilkes and Cathy Vartuli
Loosen the Money Rules That No Longer Fit
Money can carry inherited rules about goodness, safety, belonging, responsibility, and who is allowed to have what. This course helps you notice where guilt, shame, and inner conflict get hooked into money—and practice a more conscious relationship that includes your values, your body, and present-day choice.
Money Is Practical—and Emotional
Accurate numbers, real material conditions, useful systems, and appropriate financial support matter. So does what happens in your body when you receive, keep, spend, ask, charge, save, or talk about money.
When Integrity Gets Tangled With Money
Compassionate, conscientious people may fear that wanting more is selfish, asking for fair compensation harms someone, or keeping money means betraying their family or values. The conflict can remain active even when the rule no longer matches the life you want to create.
Inherited Rules Can Feel Personal
Families and communities pass down strategies shaped by scarcity, class, danger, duty, generosity, and survival. A rule may have protected someone you love and still be too narrow for you now. Understanding its history can make room for choice without contempt for where it came from.
This course offers emotional-freedom practices and reflection, not financial advice or a promise of a particular income. Use practical expertise alongside the emotional work when it would help.
Build a Relationship With Money You Can Respect
The aim is not to make you love money, become wealthy, or erase every difficult association. It is to create enough emotional room to relate to money with more reality, ethics, boundaries, curiosity, and choice.
- Separate your present values from inherited guilt and shame.
- Notice the body alarms that appear around receiving, keeping, asking, or choosing.
- Explore family rules without making your family—or yourself—wrong.
- Practice fair exchange, self-respect, and compensation that fits the value you offer.
Move From Recognition Into Practice
Begin with the welcome, focus questions, shared skills, and guided visualization. The core coaching sessions then move through learned money shame, hard work, selfishness, wealth, family rules, conflict, shame, and guilt. The wrap-up and bonuses help you integrate the work and explore fair compensation.
Choose one specific rule, scene, sentence, or body response at a time. You can pause, change the tapping words, return later, or bring the work into a supportive relationship.
The Complete Healing Your Guilt and Shame Around Money Course
Welcome
Coaching and Tapping
- 10-01 · You Were Not Born With Money Shame
- 10-02 · New Concept of Money
- 10-03 · It Has To Be Hard… Doesn't It?
- 10-04 · Are You Selfish?
- 10-05 · Wealthy People Are Bad!
- 10-06 · Family Shackles – Part 1
- 10-07 · Family Shackles – Part 2 – Mom
- 10-08 · Family Shackles – Part 3 – Dad
- 10-09 · Conflicts and Agreements
- 10-10 · Shame About Money
- 10-11 · Guilt About Money