Guidance
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Wanting Is Not the Same as Demanding
For some people, the phrase “I want” carries far more charge than three small words should. Wanting may have been called selfish. Power may have meant aggression. Speaking up may have led to ridicule, conflict, or the loss of friendship. We may believe the only proof of personal power is confronting someone—even when another response…
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Ask for What Is in Character—Then Decide What You Need
We often ask people we know very well for the thing they have repeatedly shown they do not naturally offer. We ask the chronically late person to prove love by arriving precisely on time. We ask the emotionally avoidant relative for a deep repair conversation. We ask the disorganized friend to manage the details. We…