Passage from one form, state, style, or place to another. Change, often major. A period which leads from one well-defined and steady existence to another.
– what are we losing or leaving behind? (what are we gaining?)
– is it safe?
– who will we be?
– do we have a choice?
– will we be able to handle it?
– often a more chaotic time where we face more unknowns and experience accelerated learning
– can be unsettled and uncomfortable
We learn to disassociate… and it is also instinctual. For better or worse, we learn “coping” mechanisms from Mom and Dad and other early caregivers. Our primitive brain instinctually dissasociates us both in the freeze response and whenever pain or injury would keep us from fighting or fleeing. Energy Tapping (EFT) can certainly help! Tapping can calm the primitive brain and help release old patterns of behavior.
A lot of us never learned boundaries growing up. Even if we did, managing them with ease and grace is not always natural. We help you define what is yours to decide on and show you ways to stand up for that. And we delve into some of the grey areas that occur when we interact closely with someone at work or socially.
– Intense feelings can be overwhelming and scary
– Many of us don’t have good coping skills for “negative” emotions, especially when they are intense
– Just being with it, and accepting ourselves can be powerful. Sometimes challenging
– If you are having trouble, what judgement or thoughts are underlying this?
We believe that smoking, like other addictions, is a symptom of underlying fears and blocks. Treating the symptom does not “cure” the problem. Unless someone is doing something immediately life-threatening (say taking heroine or crack), for us, it is not about quitting first. That would be rather like pulling a life raft away from a drowning person- lots of conflict and turmoil, and little chance of a positive outcome. Once the emotional and energetic issues are resolved, the physical addiction seems to be relatively straight forward to change.
Do you want the banana… or the orange? Water… or a soda? Are you making decisions based on what someone else says you “should” do, or are you free to make the choice that feels like a YES to your head, heart, AND gut? In this exercise, we continue to develop PRACTICAL body guidance… in the moment of choice.