We may consciously want more support, money, love, opportunity, or ease and become anxious when it actually arrives. The mind searches for a reason: perhaps we do not deserve it, did not work hard enough, made a mistake, or will soon lose it.
Sometimes the first issue is simpler. More is unfamiliar. The primitive brain detects a changed pattern before it knows whether the change is safe.
Let the New Reality Become Real
Positive changes are easy to miss from the inside. We adapt quickly, dismiss our part, and keep measuring from an older baseline.
Pause to name what is different:
- What support is available now?
- What capacity have I developed?
- What problem no longer dominates daily life?
- What can I receive, choose, or enjoy that was unavailable before?
Recognition helps the nervous system update. Without it, we live in new circumstances while bracing for the old ones.
Deserving May Be Hiding Another Fear
“Do I deserve this?” can conceal concerns about visibility, responsibility, family loyalty, taxes, expectations, or loss. Ask what having more would require or change.
Some concerns need practical planning. Others are inherited rules. We can address each directly instead of using deserving as a vague moral trial.
Tapping: This Is More Than I Am Used To
Side of the Hand: Even though more abundance is activating me, unfamiliar does not automatically mean unsafe.
Even though part of me expects this to disappear, I can receive what is present without demanding a guarantee.
Even though I question whether I worked hard enough, suffering is not the only legitimate price of receiving.
Top of the Head: This is more than I am used to.
Eyebrow: What if I messed something up?
Side of the Eye: What if people expect more from me now?
Under the Eye: What if it is taken away?
Under the Nose: My body is scanning the changed pattern.
Chin: I can give it accurate present-day information.
Collarbone: I can make practical plans where needed.
Under the Arm: I can let some goodness remain goodness.
Top of the Head: What is actually here now?
Eyebrow: What capacity helped me meet it?
Side of the Eye: What support can help me hold it?
Under the Eye: I do not need to shrink to preserve belonging.
Under the Nose: I do not need to grip to prove gratitude.
Chin: Receiving and responsibility can coexist.
Collarbone: I can acclimate in tolerable increments.
Under the Arm: More can become familiar without becoming an emergency.
Take a breath. Identify one form of abundance that is already present and one small way you can let it register today.
Build Capacity to Hold, Use, and Enjoy
Receiving is only one part of abundance. We may need boundaries, systems, rest, skilled advice, or permission to spend and share by choice.
Capacity grows through relationship with resources—not through proving we are morally worthy of them. We can learn while allowing the current goodness to count.
What is new today can become ordinary through repeated, grounded contact.
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This Guide was adapted from a Thriving Now session with Rick Wilkes and Cathy Vartuli, recorded October 23, 2013. The transcript was generated automatically and may contain errors.
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Emotional regulation can support clearer choices, but it is not a substitute for qualified financial, legal, or tax guidance.