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Scan your body. Is there a part you hate, reject, or feel disconnected from?
In this session, Rick Wilkes and Cathy Vartuli explore how body hatred becomes generalized—and how getting specific can open a more useful path for EFT Tapping.
Why Specificity Matters
“I hate my body” can feel like a total judgment. Yet most of us do not hate every cell, organ, and function of the body. The distress is usually connected to something more specific:
- a part you believe is unattractive
- an area that hurts or limits you
- weight, shape, strength, or coordination
- a body part you learned to judge through family or culture
- a place you have emotionally isolated or “pinched off”
Specificity is not about minimizing the pain. It helps you find the actual feeling, memory, belief, or relationship that may respond to tapping.
Questions to Explore
- Which part of my body do I reject or disconnect from?
- What words do I use when I think about it?
- Where did I learn that this part was unacceptable?
- Who taught or modeled that judgment?
- What do I fear this part says about me?
- What happens inside when I imagine relating to it with less hostility?
You do not have to force yourself to love what you currently hate. A more reachable shift might be from “Die” toward “Thank you for being here. Can we begin to work together?”
What Maggie Noticed
Maggie wrote that Cathy’s honest description of hating her fat cells resonated deeply. What stayed with her was the invitation to relate gently to every part of herself—even when it did not behave or look the way she wanted. She described that reminder as huge for her.
That is the heart of this session: reducing the internal attack enough to allow contact, curiosity, and the possibility of cooperation.
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