Your Thriving Business: Fit, Power, and Rejection
Business can reactivate the belief that you do not fit in. “Reasonable expectations” become a cage, visibility risks rejection, and other people’s problems feel personal. Bringing up your power means staying connected to value and choice without dominating.
This Guide Helps With
- feeling like an outsider in business
- questioning inherited “reasonable expectations”
- fearing rejection as visibility grows
- de-personalizing customer and workplace issues
- using power with clarity and care
Fit Is Information
Not fitting one environment does not prove you are unfit for business. It may reveal a mismatch in values, pace, audience, role, or expectations. Identify what the environment rewards and what you require in order to contribute well.
Inherited “reasonable expectations” deserve examination. Whose reasonableness is being used? Does it reflect current evidence, or a smaller life someone once considered safer? Bringing up your power can mean naming your terms, showing your work, charging coherently, and allowing the market to answer.
When a customer or colleague has a problem, separate responsibility from identity. Ask what happened, what was promised, what repair is appropriate, and what process should change. A problem can deserve a serious response without becoming proof that you do not belong.
State of Being Before the Next Action
The session uses the image of a green banana: potential may be real before the next action is ripe. Instead of forcing a plan from fear, ask what quality the business calls for now—power, presence, clarity, steadiness, or curiosity. Find an embodied memory of that quality, then ask what doing becomes apparent from there.
This is not a substitute for evidence or deadlines. It is a way to tell the difference between action driven by survival panic and action supported by the capacity you need. If nothing feels ripe, define what information or time would change that assessment.
Excitement and Anxiety Can Share a Sensation
Visibility may create a stomach flutter that could be fear, excitement, or both. Do not demand certainty before speaking to a possible customer. Check the offer, identify the actual risk, decide how you will respond to a no, and let the conversation produce information. “This is not a fit right now” is easier to use than “They rejected me.”
Tapping: I Don’t Fit In
Side of the Hand: Even though I do not fit the expected business mold, I acknowledge the fear of rejection.
Even though these expectations sound reasonable, I can ask whether they serve the work and life I want.
Even though business problems feel personal, I can separate process, fit, and identity.
Top of the Head: I do not fit in.
Eyebrow: They may reject me.
Side of the Eye: I have tried to meet every expectation.
Under the Eye: My power has stayed small.
Under the Nose: A business issue is not always about me.
Chin: I can inspect the process.
Collarbone: I can ask what the customer needs.
Under the Arm: I can keep my authority.
Top of the Head: I can define my own reasonable expectations.
Eyebrow: I can bring up my power without force.
Side of the Eye: Rejection can reveal fit.
Under the Eye: Feedback can improve the offer.
Under the Nose: I do not need to personalize every result.
Chin: I choose clarity and useful response.
Collarbone: My difference may be part of the value.
Under the Arm: I move forward as myself.
Take a breath and name one issue as a process question rather than an identity verdict.
Use Business Evidence
Track response, conversion, delivery, and satisfaction. Let data refine the offer without becoming a measure of human worth.
Session Audio
This guide was adapted from a Thriving Now session led by Rick Wilkes.
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