Possibility closes when a desire is translated into one enormous all-or-nothing demand. A gentler question—what might actually be possible from here—invites imagination without ignoring current capacity or reality.
This Guide explores the difference between forcing a complete outcome and sensing the next movement that can open useful information. In the context of Ask What Might Actually Be Possible, that distinction matters because shame and pressure tend to collapse several different problems into one. Specificity gives the body a workable place to begin.
Notice the Pattern in Ask What Might Actually Be Possible
The first step here is not forcing a better attitude. For Ask What Might Actually Be Possible, notice what happens, what the body predicts, what feeling rises, and what action suddenly seems necessary.
Common signals can include:
- The goal feels impossibly large.
- I see only success or failure.
- My capacity gets ignored.
- Pressure blocks imagination.
These signs do not prove that the protective story is accurate. They show where the system expects a consequence. Around Ask What Might Actually Be Possible, practical reality still matters, and regulation does not replace information, boundaries, or appropriate professional support. Regulation helps us use those resources with more choice.
Questions About Ask What Might Actually Be Possible
Try one question at a time. Let the first honest answer arrive before correcting it.
- What portion is possible now?
- What would create new information?
- Which support changes the equation?
- What possibility brings a little energy?
The answer may sound irrational, young, dramatic, or socially unacceptable. That does not make it useless. With Ask What Might Actually Be Possible, a primitive alarm may speak absolutely because it formed when our options and capacities were smaller.
Tapping: Respect the Protection and Recover Choice
Side of the Hand: Even though the goal feels impossibly large, maybe partial movement still changes the field.
Even though I see only success or failure, maybe I can include present capacity.
Even though my capacity gets ignored, I am willing to try on the possibility that an experiment is not a promise.
Top of the Head: The goal feels impossibly large.
Eyebrow: I see only success or failure.
Side of the Eye: My capacity gets ignored.
Under the Eye: Pressure blocks imagination.
Under the Nose: The goal feels impossibly large.
Chin: I see only success or failure.
Collarbone: My capacity gets ignored.
Under the Arm: Pressure blocks imagination.
Top of the Head: Partial movement still changes the field.
Eyebrow: I can include present capacity.
Side of the Eye: An experiment is not a promise.
Under the Eye: Possibility can be modest and real.
Under the Nose: Partial movement still changes the field.
Chin: I can include present capacity.
Collarbone: An experiment is not a promise.
Under the Arm: Possibility can be modest and real.
Take a breath. Notice what happens when you repeat: “Possibility can be modest and real.”
A Small Practice for Real Life
Reduce the desired outcome until your body can imagine beginning. Choose one step that either creates evidence, builds capacity, or brings another resource into the situation.
Keep the experiment small enough to observe. A useful practice here creates new information. No healing test is required. Afterward, notice sensation, energy, clarity, resentment, and recovery. Those responses can guide the next adjustment.
What Progress Can Look Like With Ask What Might Actually Be Possible
Progress may be quieter than a dramatic breakthrough. Notice sooner. Pause for one breath. Make a precise request. Choose a smaller step or recover more quickly after activation.
Possibility is neither fantasy nor grim limitation. It is a responsive conversation among desire, conditions, support, timing, and the aliveness available for the next movement.
Session Audio
This Guide was adapted from a Thriving Now session with Rick Wilkes and Cathy Vartuli, recorded June 5, 2019. The transcript was generated automatically and may contain errors.