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From the archived Rick and Carol EFT podcast series. The series is complete.
Episode #23 – Releasing sabotage
- A part of us often doesn’t want us to improve… it doesn’t feel safe moving forward.
- Internal resistance keeps us from following through.
- It’s that, “I don’t do what I know I should do” feeling.
- Release the energy of self-sabotage and you can move forward with what is best for your physical and emotional health and well-being.
Companion Guide
Self-sabotage is a harsh name for the moment when one part of you wants improvement and another does not follow through. You may know the exercise, food choice, phone call, meditation, tapping, or business action that would support you—and still feel heavy, resistant, distracted, or pulled toward something else.
Calling yourself lazy usually adds shame without revealing the conflict. This short Guide turns the original tap-along into a simple practice for meeting the resistant part with acceptance and curiosity.
This Guide Helps With
- not doing what you believe is good for you
- feeling pressure, heaviness, or avoidance around follow-through
- measuring resistance without demanding that it disappear
- accepting the part that does not want to improve
- making room for authentic inspiration and a clearer yes
Picture One Behavior
Choose a single behavior, not your entire pattern of success. Imagine yourself doing it. Notice the bodily response: heaviness, irritation, fatigue, contraction, numbness, or the urge to turn away.
If a number comes easily, rate the resistance from zero to ten. If it does not, skip the number. The purpose is simply to establish contact with what is here.
Acceptance Before Inspiration
The resistant part may dislike pressure, expect too much effort, fear success, or want a form of care different from the one you prescribed. You do not need to understand it fully before offering acceptance.
Acceptance is not agreement that nothing should change. It reduces the internal battle so that motivation does not have to fight its way through self-attack.
Tapping: Including the Resistant Part
Side of the Hand: Even though I do not do what I know I should do, I deeply and profoundly accept myself anyway.
Even though there is a strong part of me that does not seem to want to improve, I accept who I am and how I feel.
Even though I resist what I believe would support my well-being, I can include the resistant part instead of attacking it.
Top of the Head: I seem to resist taking care of myself.
Eyebrow: I know what I am supposed to be doing.
Side of the Eye: Why do I keep sabotaging?
Under the Eye: I do not like this pressure.
Under the Nose: Part of me does want to improve.
Chin: Another part says it is too much work.
Collarbone: I do not have to understand it all right now.
Under the Arm: I accept every part of me in this moment.
Top of the Head: Wouldn’t it be nice to feel inspired?
Eyebrow: I remember feeling inspired before.
Side of the Eye: I can appreciate myself even when I resist.
Under the Eye: I can listen for what is a real yes for me.
Under the Nose: I can change the size or shape of the step.
Chin: My decision does not have to come from shame.
Collarbone: I welcome freedom and honest motivation.
Under the Arm: I choose support that fits who I am now.
Take a breath. Picture the same behavior and notice what changed. If the resistance remains, ask what pressure, effort, consequence, or unmet need it associates with the action.
Let the Result Guide the Next Round
If the intensity drops, choose a very small action while there is space. If a specific objection appears—“I will have to do this forever,” “People will expect more,” or “This is not actually what I want”—tap on that exact message.
If nothing changes, you have still practiced meeting yourself without contempt. That is not trivial. Follow-through becomes more sustainable when all of you is allowed into the conversation.
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