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Fear of Intimacy: If I Get Close It Will Hurt

Even if we REALLY want love and closeness, if part of us is afraid of being hurt, it will be hard to attract the love we crave. Identifying the fears and then gently releasing them can allow more warmth and intimacy into our lives.

I Don’t Want To Go There Again

– Old Coping Mechanisms are hard to release when we fear we’ll need them again.
– Used to self hatred
– Medical anxiety
– Addictions from when dad divorced me
– Falling apart

Fear of Being Alone

– Fear of not finding my tribe
– I want to be in relationship
– On my own for the first time
– Need someone to take care of me
– Lack of relationship
– Alone in a group
– I don’t fit in my family

Old Endings New Beginnings

– Giving up magical thinking
– Letting go means admitting I made a mistake
– Seeing self as a stronger person
– I’m doing all the work

Letting Go of Holiday Stress

– Family Acceptance and expectations
– Loneliness
– Obligations
– Money stress
– I won’t feel happy
– Finding my tribe

Forgiveness For Myself and Others

– Reperception of life rather than an act of forgiveness.
– Ex was a cowardly jerk.
– Screwed up my life.
– All my fault!

I’m Sorry, So Sorry!

– Regret and embarrassment
– I hurt him.
– I’m sorry for everything!
– Feel bad about the way I treated my son.

Fear of Fear

– I don’t know what’s going to happen.
– Worst thing in the world.
– Afraid of freezing again.
– Don’t upset her!

Trust You?? No Way!

– I don’t trust myself
– I don’t trust anyone to love me
– I’m not good enough, I don’t trust people (or myself) to value me
– I don’t trust myself to take care of myself

I Doubt Myself

– Fear of being caught being incompetent
– Terrified that something bad will happen if I make the wrong decision
– Horrible consequences in the past
– Doubt my ability to take a second step.