WHY ME? That question often brings disempowering answers, “because I’m not worthy”, “I’m bad”, “I’m a pain in the ass.” More empowered questions: what is my body trying to heal? what needs to heal?
A lot of us have something we focus on as holding us back. Something that limits our happiness, abundance, feelings of self-worth, and connections to others. Having something big and obvious to direct most of our pain at is one way of coping. It does “protect” us from other issues.
What are family rules? Generational “laws of the universe” as your family understood them. Family rules limit us. They are what was decided in the past; they are not guidance for today.
I need to be fixed to be ok around people… I feel clueless on how to act… I disconnect from people… I have to quit smoking to be around people… If I’m not good enough, they might leave… I need to fix my weight!
Even if we have shifted a lot of old beliefs, this one may be pretty ingrained, blocking our movement forward. I have tried everything, why would this time be different? I don’t want to hope and fail again. I feel stupid and it hurts.
