– I don’t trust myself
– I don’t trust anyone to love me
– I’m not good enough, I don’t trust people (or myself) to value me
– I don’t trust myself to take care of myself

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– Fear of being caught being incompetent
– Terrified that something bad will happen if I make the wrong decision
– Horrible consequences in the past
– Doubt my ability to take a second step.

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by Whitney Hess, via A List Apart: Articles: No One Nos: Learning to Say No to Bad Ideas, with comments about the emotional blocks to saying NO by Rick@Thrivingnow.com Last October while on the phone with Harry Max—a pioneer in the field of Information Architecture, co-founder of Virtual Vineyards/Wine.com, (the first secure shopping system on

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– I’ve taken care of everyone since I was a kid
– I MUST make them happy
– I have to make up for all that time
– I have to save them, no one else will
– My parents needed me to be in charge

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– I’d have to be less afraid
– Bigger business, better wife, perfect product
– Compulsion to have “it”
– Self-judgements getting in the way of my dream

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– Too much shame
– Too difficult, they won’t like me
– Just can’t!
– Never encouraged
– Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about!
– Slapped down
– Oher people’s judgements
– Out of control

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We enjoy life and function better when we feel safer. No matter what you are doing… from enjoying a BBQ with friends, weeding the flowerbeds, taking a walk, or doing spring cleaning… you will feel more present and focused if you feel safe. When we feel even “a bit” threatened or nervous, there is a constant underlying tension and worry. Part of our attention is always focused on the threat. Yet for many of us, we don’t even know what the danger is! We just feel unsafe.

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– If I slow down I might not get the work I need
– I might feel not good enough
– Alone, sad and unsupported
– I need to distract myself

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– Feeling unsupported and overwhelmed
– Always have pain somewhere
– Chasing the pain
– Fear and pain in my back

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– Fear of going to the doctor’s office
– EKG… not exactly good news
– Work & personal life balance
– Anger at the process
– Doing stuff without the DREAD

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