Rather than sinking into blame, denial, hurt feelings, and resentment, follow the steps in these videos by Cathy Vartuli and Reid Mihalko to build new, more resilient communication and connection. (And we do hope you don’t ever leave your child at the mall, like we did in this hypothetical example!)
Please note that The Intimacy Dojo referred to in the videos is a new site being spear-headed by Cathy. As always, we’ll have lots of tapping and solutions here on Thriving Now from Rick and Cathy. The Intimacy Dojo is a place where we can bring in information from both tappers and non-tappers and share on specific topics around love, intimacy, and relationships.
What To Do If You Mess Up In A Relationship?
What Do You Do If Your Partner Screws Up In a Relationship?
Ready to tap on this?
Karate Chop: Even though it feels awful, I know that people do screw up. Maybe this isn’t as terrible or life shattering as I thought.
Even though I want to pretend it didn’t happen, ignore how we both feel, it might be healthier and happier in the long run to face this mess and clean it up.
Even though this feels so awkward, it’s just new. I’m creating new ways of relating and opening our relationship up to deep, warm, intimacy.
Top of the Head: What if it ruins everything?
Eyebrow: I’m scared.
Side of the Eye: I want to pretend.
Under the Eye: I want to ignore the problem.
Under the Nose: I’m so good at stuffing my emotions…
Chin: And hoping it will go away.
Collarbone: But in the long run, that’s pretty stressful.
Under the Arm: It doesn’t help our connection.
Top of the Head: I long for a sense of safety.
Eyebrow: Maybe I can only get it by going deeper.
Side of the Eye: I’ve been so careful all my life.
Under the Eye: Thinking that would make me feel safe.
Under the Nose: But everyone screws up sometimes…
Chin: No matter how careful they are.
Collarbone: Maybe I can feel secure that we can handle the problems…
Under the Arm: By facing them honestly, together.
Top of the Head: Hiding and denying feel awful.
Eyebrow: Open communication can feel vulnerable and frightening,
Side of the Eye: Yet it’s much healthier and more loving.
Under the Eye: I’ve been searching for intimacy.
Under the Nose: I’ve been longing for more connection.
Chin: Maybe this is an opportunity,
Collarbone: Not a calamity!
Under the Arm: I’m ready to be who I really am.
Top of the Head: And Create Powerful Connection.
Take a deep breath.
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