Thought: “I must be aware of bad things, and guarded about bad things, and I must watch out for bad things by trying to guide myself toward good things.”
By Law of Attraction: You can’t do both at the same time. You can’t watch out for bad things, and allow good things at the same time. It is vibrationally not possible. (Abraham-Hicks)
You can’t watch MTV and expect to see classical opera. Indeed, if someone did expect to see opera, and was all depressed that MTV wasn’t showing it despite how many hours they watched, you’d think they were goofy. Yet, our thoughts reflect where we are vibrationally tuned. If we have habitually tuned to the Bad Feelings channel, there is but one option if you want to feel good. You INTENTIONALLY change the channel.
We are, as a culture, under the primitive superstition that people’s moods and attitudes are based on what is in their external environment. “The weather dictates my happiness.” Spend a half day as a coach, talking to people from all walks of life, and you know that external circumstances have nearly nothing to do with internal experience. There are miserable, suicidal people on yachts, and there are delighted people out in the bush with “nothing.” And there are miserable, suicidal people out in the bush with “nothing,” and there are delighted people on yachts. If you don’t know this to be true, you are not paying attention.
So why do we get so good at this self-loathing and being guarded about bad things?
First, we have two brains. The primitive one is highly attuned to threats, real or perceived. Face it, far better to run and climb the tree over “nothing” than to be eaten by the tiger. Right? But 99.9% of what our primitive brain interprets as a threat today simply is NOT. It is not life and death. I have clients who eat themselves up inside over the remote (not even logical) fear of losing their job when they would not starve. So all that fear energy is a hyperactive primitive brain perceiving false evidence as real. And then INSISTING it is right. Because it wants to keep you alive. And it doesn’t care a fraction of whether you are enjoying yourself or not. And ever since we were children, parents, teachers, friends, and family have manipulated this primitive brain to get what they want from us, keep us controlled, and “safe.”
Why else are we good at bad feelings? We have been taught to be “scientific” and good reporters of how things are or were. These are fine skills, if you want to repeat history. These are fine skills, if you want to get more of the same. Our power of observation sets our vibration, by default. Try this: watch the local evening news. Then turn it off and scan your body. How do you feel? In your heart? In your gut? In your head? What are you thinking about?
Then try listening to a half hour of music that you’d choose to feel uplifted. After a half hour, turn it off and scan your body. How do you feel? In your heart? In your gut? In your head? What are you thinking?
The local TV news is reality, isn’t it? Somewhere, some way, someone did something BAD to someone else. And you “need to know.” Right? RIGHT?
Your primitive brain thinks so. Your heart disagrees. What someone else created in a different “world” is not your world… except by focusing your thought on it makes it so. Your world, your entire life experience, is determined by the quality—the vibration—of your focused thoughts. And you have a choice. And as a child, you knew you had a choice.
How many of us started daydreaming in school when things got boring or unpleasant? RIGHT!! That is the intelligent, spiritually connected part of you co-creating a future world that is more pleasing to you, and practicing it in the present. Indeed, if you want to really start thriving… start dreaming. Allow yourself to grin from an inner pleasure of focusing even for a few seconds on a dream that feels good, and noticing and relishing the feeling.
Most of your life, you’ve probably been snapped back to “reality” by well-meaning but ignorant people who told you to get real, get serious, and get focused. Yes, get focused. And notice that when you focus on thoughts that are not pleasing to you, you worry. And when you worry, you feel tense. And when you feel tense, you feel pain. And when you feel pain, you suffer. And when you suffer, you feel like dying. And when you feel like dying, nothing in life is worth it.
You stand every moment at the fork in the road. You choose. Choose a thought that feels bad, and at the next fork choose another thought that feels bad or worse, and at the next do the same, and by the focus of your mind, you will be in Hell.
Or, choose a thought that feels just a tiny bit better, and at the next fork do the same, and at the next choose one that feels okay, and at the next fork choose one that’s hopeful, and at the next choose one that feels pretty darn good and you will have practiced the art of allowing yourself to thrive. Give yourself permission to get really, really good at choosing the fork—the thought&mash;that feels GOOD.