by Cathy Vartuli
We often talk about the freeze response from trauma. The problem is, if you’ve been “frozen” in one area of your life for a long time, you may not even notice it anymore. You may take how you feel for granted… think that there’s not much you can do about it.
I was there.
Over all, my life was great! A career I loved bringing in financial abundance. Wonderful friends. Spacious, comfortable home in a nice neighborhood. Health. The one area I felt stuck in, I didn’t think I could do anything about.
I wasn’t finding romance. I wasn’t even dating. I think I was subconsciously expecting to eventually trip over the right person, and I’d fall miraculously in love and live happily ever after. Only it wasn’t happening…
I’d tapped with Rick and got help from other people, too. I had abundance in so many areas in my life, and I felt rather like Helen Keller around romantic relationships… trying to understand why this wasn’t working for me and just not getting it.
Luckily, Rick had seen some of Reid Mihalko’s practical, down-to-earth articles. Perhaps out of frustration at hearing me complain for the thousandth time that I wasn’t meeting anyone, he suggested I call Reid for a session.
I’m so glad I did! Working with Reid, I found that there were specific skills and techniques that I never learned growing up. Not the manipulative, sleazy suggestions I’d read in the self-help and dating books and could never bring myself to use. These were honest, authentic ways to open up and connect. Suddenly, all the suggestions Rick and other coaches made clicked into place.
My friends know I can get rather focused when I’m intrigued with a subject, and I’ve been digging into this topic intensely for the last 8 months. And I’m delighted and astounded with the changes I’ve been able to create.
Using these new skills, tapping (thanks Rick and Carol Look!), and new insights about myself, I’ve been dating regularly… and meeting some wonderful people. In fact, I’ve had more requests for dates than I can fit in my schedule. I’m enjoying the warm connection, laughter, and clear communication. And I feel more confident and relaxed with friends and at work, too.
I’m not saying this to brag… I love how my life has opened up and how much affection and delight I have now, and I want you to know it’s possible for you, too.
All the excuses I had were just fear stopping me from moving forward. They were just the frozen part of me staying stuck.
I thought I might be too old (I’m 44), overweight (I’ve lost weight, and I have more to lose), not pretty enough, too geeky. And none of that matters.
One of my favorite quotes is by Rumi: That which you seek is seeking you.
There are some amazing people longing for the connection and love you have inside you. And you can learn how to find them and make it easy for them to find you.
If you’re already in a relationship, these skills and techniques can re-ignite your fire (despite what conventional wisdom says, the spark doesn’t need to go out after the first initial rush!).
Reid, Rick, and I are bringing you the insights, skills, and approaches that can open this doorway to you, too. Our 6 call teleseries intensive is tailored to create a comprehensive skill set that allows you to Create Connection in an authentic, natural way. We’ll teach, inspire, and tap with you to transform your love life… and empower you to share your heart with amazing people.
We invite you to join us and Create Connection that adds joy, warmth and delight to your life:
When people feel empowered around love, they have more to offer the world. The more generous, authentic, loving people there are, the more abundance we all have. You can create that for yourself, starting today! Let’s do some EFT Tapping together:
Karate Chop: Even though I don’t have all the love and warmth I want in my life, and I thought maybe there was something wrong with me, I am open to learning new approaches and finding my heart’s desire.
Even though I thought I was lacking something inside… and I have been lacking the connection I crave… what if I can learn how to create this now?!
Even though I feared I would never find the love I wanted, and I kind of blocked out the longing deep in my core… I am ready to clear this block and acquire the skills to make a difference now!
Top of the Head: I guess I’d given up.
Eyebrow: But my heart kept hoping!
Side of the Eye: I do want love.
Under the Eye: I want connection.
Under the Nose: And I’ve been frozen around love.
Chin: I didn’t know how to move forward.
Collarbone: I didn’t know what to do.
Under the Arm: So I closed down and ignored it.
Top of the Head: My heart wants the warmth of love.
Eyebrow: My being craves that connection.
Side of the Eye: There must be a way.
Under the Eye: Other people have it!
Under the Nose: What’s wrong with me?!
Chin: Why don’t I have it?
Collarbone: Why does life feel a little dry?
Under the Arm: A little boring?
Top of the Head: What if there was never anything wrong with me?
Eyebrow: What if Creating Connection is a skill…
Side of the Eye: And I can learn it now?!
Under the Eye: I can have that warmth and connection.
Under the Nose: My life can be juicy and delicious.
Chin: I can open doorways to delightful, loving people.
Collarbone: I choose empowerment now.
Under the Arm: I allow my being to unfreeze…
Top of the Head: And begin my sucessful quest for love!
Take a deep breath.
I’m delighted that Reid, Rick, and I are collaborating on this call series. We each bring a different, practical perspective. And our life’s missions overlap here beautifully. We each want to create more love and connection in the world, and empower people to unthaw and vitalize their hearts.
I invite you to join us on this journey. Because the message is so core to what we want to share, we’re offering it at a special low price.
Isn’t it time?!